How would you feel about if you were in this situation?

Question

You are 15 and your sister is 12. She brings 2 friends home afterschool one day to have fun with her. Your parents are not home and know nothing about this issue. You didn’t want to say “hi” to her friends because you only like your friends and don’t like her friends and don’t want to know them. After her friends leave the house, your sister yell at you for not saying hi, get mad at you, says that you have an attitude when you don’t, tell you that her friends don’t like when I don’t say that and say they feel disrespected because of that. She also says that her friends know a lot of gang members that will protect them and if you continue to disrespect them and not say hi to them when they come over, her friends will tell the gang member to beat you up. You are not scared. You only feel that there is no reason for them to do that.

Answer 1

I would feel like I am a 15 year old kid with a bratty 12 year old sister who thinks the world owes her respect but doesn't want to do anything to earn it. The friends didn't come over to see you, they came to see your sister.

If I were your sister, I'd be shutting up about now, because if she continues to make an issue of it, you'll tell your mother that she had friends over when no parents were home and she didn't have permission.

Answer 2

Well what your sister says will happen is illegal. You can tell your parents or the police if the gang members actually come over. Its good that you are unafraid. I wouldn't take threats from a 12 year old too seriously, but, if you find out that there are gang members involved, you should tell the right people right away about the situation so violence can be avoided. This is just my personal opinion, but I don't think 12 year old girls know any gang members are more than likely making that up because they want you to talk to them.

Answer 3

Sorry, Big Sister---but you are the one who needs to apologize to your sister. You should have spoken to your sister's friends. The way you handled it show that you didn't want to know her friends, etc. etc. Which demonstrated you had a very snobby attitude.

Do you know that you have to be the example for your little sister? Do you know that when you disrespect her friends, you're telling her---without words---that the people in her life don't mean anything to you?

What would you say if she brought home someone who was a drug dealer, or who cussed, drank, and did all sorts of awful things? Would you say something then? I think what your little sister is saying is, "Don't be rude to my friends. You may not want to associate with us, but you can at least show some good manners."

Sounds like your little sister is more mature than you were acting that day.

Answer 4

First I would tell my parents that my sister had her friends over (just to piss her off :)
and really when your 15, you don't wanna deal with 12 year old. so I would just continue to ignore them, and if they tell you that they want you to say hi, just be like your not my friends and I don't like you. (hey, truth hurts.) And those girls are losers for saying that they dont like it when someone ignores them. Plus your sister shouldnt have gotten mad-but hey, shes 12. Young and immature. What do expect?
IF they do in fact belong to a gang (They were probably bluffing) and IF they threaten you, tell someone-parent, teacher, police, whatever.
Dont let them scare you into silence. because they would probably try to get your sister to join the gang also.

Answer 5

It doesn't hurt to say 'Hi'. Sounds to me like you DO have an attitude problem. Your sisters friends are guests in your house, whether you like them or not. Also it sounds to me, as the older sister and with your parents not around, you have a responsibility to do what your parents would do under the circumstances - give guests a little acknowledgement to say that you know they are there and that you care about your sister.

Answer 6

You have a lot of growing up to do son. You need to stop being so selfish and jealous towards your sister. Is it only fair for you to have friends? You need to think before you act. If you went to one of your friend's house and they had a older sibling that didn't speak to you, how would you feel? You would feel like you are not welcome right? Start having more respect for people when they come into your home, or anywhere you go speak to people. You never ever know when you might just need one of these people to help you with something.

Answer 7

All I can say is SILLY GIRLS! Ignore them and they will grow out of it. When I was 15 and my bro was 12, the last thing he would do is acknowledge mine or my friends' existence...and we liked it that way. There is just enough space in your ages that you two might not be close again until you are a senior in school and she is a freshman in need of YOUR protection. Until then, tell her to get a life and that "you don't care if her friends all like you or not."

Answer 8

You need to tell your parent/s.

If your sister is telling the truth that the gang members are theatening to beat you up - the adult in your home *parents or whoever is in charge of you* need to call the police and make an official report.

Answer 9

How long does it take to say Hi....... Even if you don't like your sister's friends you should respect your sister by saying Hi to her friends. She's not asking you to join them. A quick hi would of avoided this from the beginning.
Doesn't make it right on the other hand for them to threaten you.

Answer 10

Could you at least type like you are in the situation that way makes it all confusing! and what do you mean have fun with her?
I think that that is stupid you do not have to say hi to them if you do not feel like it! You tell them that I highly doubt that they will sick a gangster on you! Besides unless you are some scrawny dude I bet you could beat a gangster up any day even if you arnt a dude!!