ok, so im getting married in a couple months, and thinking of having my fiance use his old wedding band instead of buying a new one. i mean, its just a ring, and mine is new and pretty, and he does not care, and its a really nice ring. what do you think?
2006-06-16 09:01:51 · 27 answers · asked by Blonda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure why not..
those who are saying it's tacky ect....are the ones who get divorced because they put so much into symbolism and materialism
do you realize how much people spend now a days to get married for a 1 day event? insane amount of money that is in essence a show off contest, and no one cares much less will remember, no one really want to see the photos, the videos, the cake cutting ect..
no one but really old people care. considering that al lthse people who shell out so much money for a 1 day event get divorced at about a 65% average, shows you how well grounded their logic is.
2006-06-16 09:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Congratulations on your engagement. My question would be: have you asked your fiance how he feels about that? I think that would be the best place to start. If he is comfortable with that and you don't mind, then who cares right? This decision is based on your relationship and how secure you are with each other. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. My husband and I are using are old wedding rings. His wife passed away and I was divorsed. We looked at rings but couldn't really find anything at the time we got married and so we decided to have new rings made at some point, but for now we are wearing are old rings. The rings don't make the relationship - you do! God Bless and good luck!
2006-06-16 09:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Francesca G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...take that extra step..i see what you are saying as far as its nice, but you know just as well as I do that there are times when u say u dont care but you really do. Surprise him, show him that your willing to go beyond what is necessary, heck its your wedding!! Go out girl, its not like he's gonna throw the other one away, hell still have the nice ring. If you got a new and pretty one so should he whether he cares or not. Plus if you mean old wedding band as in someone elso gave it to him in a prior marriage....HELL NO!!!!! thats just like bringing the other woman and all their memories into your new relationship...You'll make the right choice..Congrats on your wedding..
2006-06-16 09:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by sexyhester0603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A new relationship should begin on a new note. So I think u should ask ur fiance to buy a new wedding ring. I mean he may not be short on money and a beautiful heart. Ask him !
And make it that sure he does care.
2006-06-16 09:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that! Why would you want to reuse his wedding band from a previous marriage? If you're trying to save money - you can get an inexpensive simple wedding band - but DON'T reuse his old one - you are starting a life together - you want to leave his old wedding behind you - and that band will be a reminder of the love between your fiancee and his ex - not of the love between the two of you - get a new band - TRUST ME
2006-06-16 09:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by kaije03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people believe that jewelry carries memories and those memories can/do affect the future, and that if a marriage ended in divorce you are "encouraging" a bad marriage.
Depending on what your beliefs are, I think you should do what is in your heart. I mean if you want your husband wearing a reminder of his exwife that is totally up to you.
I personally want something new that is a memory just for the two us without any reminders of anyone or anything other than our special day.
2006-06-16 09:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really your personal preference. Marriage is a really personal thing, and you can get tips on ettiquette until you're blue in the face, but in the end it's up to you and your fiance. So, if you're both comfortable with it, I say go ahead.
One piece of advice--you may not want to tell everyone about it once you've made your decision, because you'll just get them throwing their two cents in.
Congratulations!
2006-06-16 09:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Christine E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Get a fresh start all the way around. I've known folks to turn old wedding rings into other jewlry.
2006-06-16 09:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by tex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg no! haha
i understand your logic, but i mean, you're really only supposed to get married once--its sacred...even if hes been married before,
its a special bond between the 2 of you--not the 3 of you..
you will probably regret it later
and if you pass it to children one day, who wants to be like "yeah my mom gave me her old wedding ring that matched the one from my dads previous wife"
i dont know..i just think its degrading to the marriage, because its a symbol of something sacred
but do what you want..i wouldnt though :(
2006-06-16 09:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He needs a new ring. It's one thing if he uses one given to him from a family member, and quite another if it is his from a previous marriage.
You are not his previous wife, and need to avoid anything that would symbolize that you are (especially in his mind). Rings are highly symbolic.
Get him to hawk it & buy a new one.
2006-06-16 09:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋