Ladies.... do you consider the negative consequences of dressing up sexy when you go out at night?

Question

Let me explain....I know you all have every right to dress how you wish.

I look at it this way, I have the right to cross the road when the light is in my favour, but it does not stop me from being hit by a truck from out of nowhere.

You get dressed up fancy for yourself and for your date, but not every guy (yes.... sickos) out there have the same mindset as you or I.

You know that it could happen at anytime, why do you still dress up sexy? You look for the attention..... don't you? How do you balance out the risks..... any comments on this?

"Just trying to understand the female psychi", and I Iove the ladies! Bless you all!

Sorry, no nutcase here. I'm on the level.... it's just a question, plain and simple.

Answer 1

You do have the right to cross the road when the light is in your favor and yes, you may get hit by a truck. The point is, the person at fault would be the driver, not you.

Because this may happen, do you not cross the street? Do you not drive an automobile because you may get in an accident? Not shave because you may cut yourself.

Asking a woman to take responsibility for the wrong actions of someone else is just one of the many ways that society (mainly males with mindsets like yourself) tries to keep us undertheir thumb.

Let's say you did have the right away and you did cross the road and got nailed by a UPS truck. Would it be right for me to say, (as you are lying their bloodied, broken and bruised,) "You know you could get hit by a car at anytime, why did you cross the street anyway? You were looking to get hit by that truck? You didn't balance the risks?"

Now I am going to put this as nicely as I can because your thought process has me wiggling in my chair a bit...Did you think that question through before you asked it? I'm just trying to understand the caveman psyche

Answer 2

Sometimes when a woman is so beautiful and sexy by nature, no matter how she dresses she will look sexy. She can be all covered up in sweat pants and turtle necks, never match but she will still make an enterance..people will still look. Some women just have the charisma and confidence-they know how to carry themselves. They are sometimes just naturally so beautiful that even when they don't ask for attention, they will get attention and a lot of stares. So do you see that it's not about dressing sexy? Physcos are everywhere, they look for any one men or women, sexy or not, that's why they are called phycos anyone can be their pray.

Answer 3

like many of the other answers to your question, i think that any problem with how women dress is men's problem.

like someone already said, if how women dressed really affected their chances of being violated, then how come grannies in their homes are also violated by young men?

a man assaulting a woman is not about the woman's looks, it's about power.

on the other hand, if a woman dressed up sexily (remembering that sexy is an entirely subjective concept) complained about being flirted with or having drinks bought for her, then maybe i'd say to her 'girl, put your t*ts away if you don't like the attention!'.

balancing out the risks is an unfortunate side effect of women generally being smaller and less physically powerful than men. but it's also a sad side effect of our society, one in which women don't enjoy the same freedoms as men. as far as women have come in the last 100 or so years, there are still a lot of aspects in which women are subjugated. how they dress is one of them.

the main way i balance the risk is always having enough cab fare to get home and never leaving a venue alone. but i would do that no matter how i was dressed.

Answer 4

I look at it this way. I dress however I want to dress. If anybody wants to fvck with me while I'm out with my hubby or my son (who is a competitive bodybuilder and kickboxer) they are asking for an a$$ beating. Not to mention the fact that both hubby and I are attorneys and will not hesitiate to prosecute anybody who lays a finger on me. But for the record, sexy is very subjective. I rarely dress in anything too short or low cut. I dress in a way that flatters the figure I work out so vigorously to maintain. I look good, I know it, and I am going to dress in a way that shows off my hard work.

Answer 5

I agree with you.
I don't look to dress "sexy" myself, I'm pretty much a comfort first kind of girl.
Yes, I think that women want to draw attention to themselves when they wear the low cut, short skirt, thong revealing, see through whatever, and yes, they should expect negative attention.
No, I don't feel sorry for them when somebody offends them verbally. I think they are asking for bad behaviour, and subjecting themselves to worse when they dress that way, and go to a bar where large quantities of alcoholic beverages are consumed.
I think you still get attention if you dress classy, sexy, as you do when you dress trashy sexy, except it's maybe not quite so flagrant.

Answer 6

You have posed a good question. This is such a good point-women need to learn that they can dress respectably and still look attractive. Personally while I'm wearing pants and a nice top I'm seeing women with their bosom bouncing out of their tops. Obviously they don't dress like that and in five inch heels for comfort lol. If you dress and act in a respectful manner -that is what you will attract.

Answer 7

my point of veiw is you only attract what you want to. My husband is a old country boy who prefers me in jeans and a teeshirt... so dressing like a streetwalker never crosses my mind.. occasionally showing some cleavage for him I do do sometimes... I really think its about how you feel, and some girls think they have to go all out to get attention, when what matters is how we feel about ourselves, when I was single i got hit on by just as many guys when i wore a pair of jeans and a sweater as when i wore revealing clothes, now the quality of what i attracted was much worse with the more revealing... it was the guys who were after one night stands....

Answer 8

Well there is a difference between dressing like a wh0re and dressing sexy! If i'm dressing sexy i'm not looking for any attention...I just want to look good! For those who dress like wh0res...they deserve what ever comes to them!

Answer 9

Some dress up sexy for attention. But some like me dress sexy because we feel that in our mood. I dress that way because I feel good in my own skin and sexiness just bounce off of me. :-)

Answer 10

girls can look hot in any kinda clothes not necessarily in bad clothes. I think girls dress up sexy to call for attention, look good. Dressing up sexy in a nice way means girls want positive attention but girls wearing nasty clothes means they expect negative attention