im inlove with a 30 year old and im 14?

Question

i have been inlove with this person for a long time now, i dindnt really exept it. wev always been close freinds and hung out and stuff. scine the beginng of the year. its almost the end of the year what am i saposed to do. i dont have a lot of time to say the tings that i think i should say just to let them know how i feel. even though they are older than me it seems lke its something i just have to get out of my system.

pls help i need an adults advice!!

Answer 1

you're 14, you are not in love.
has he told you he loves you?
if he has, stay away from him.
you are a child, do not become involved with an adult.
its disgusting, you're a minor, and its illegal.
you haven't experienced enough to know what love
is i am sure. so just move on from him..
in highschool there are plenty of boys.

Answer 2

Hi Sweetie,
I know this is probably not what you want to hear but he is a grown man and you are, even though you probably don't look like, a child. You are in a phase of your life stuck somewhere between a woman and a child. Your hormones are raging and they are a big part of how you are feeling towards this ADULT man. I hope that he is not telling you things that would make you think he wants a physical or any type of relationship with you. This is not only wrong in every way but it is gross. He is double your age physically and mentally. He is not going to want to go and hang around with you and your 14 and 15 year old girlfriends and giggle and laugh and talk about things teenage girls talk about. He is probably going to want a physical relationship ( yes I mean sex ) and being 14 you are not ready for that, and if you think you are can you imagine being pregnant at 14. Most men that age dont want to use protection. I am not saying any of this to be mean. My sister went through this and luckily she married the man, she got pregnant at 14 and she was a mom and married at 15. Sit and think about that for just a minute. You have your whole life to love.... be a child while you still can. My sister never got to go to her senior prom or walk across the stage to get her high school diploma, she was to busy being a mom. I hope you listen to everyone on here who feels the same way I do. Also just a thought if you did date this guy and your parents found out about it ( especially if you are having sex with him ) they will put him in prison ......so that leaves you alone ( if you have his child ) taking care of a baby with him in prison for a long time. Stop and think before you act. You are young so be young!!! Good Luck Honey!!!

Answer 3

I am 48 years old. When I was 14, I was in love with a 28 year old man. He liked me, but that was all. We never took it to the next level. I would suggest you get on with your life and let these feelings go. You will only get hurt whether he returns your feelings or not. You are in a tough situation but I promise you that life DOES go on. Allow yourself to be 14, to have a fun Summer. That is something you will remember in 20 years....not the older guy!

Answer 4

it's not love, it's hormones....
i was in that phase too. i was 15, and i liked this guy who was almost 40 (way old). i thought i was "in love" i wanted to run away with him and "live happily ever after" --- believe me, by the time you reach your twenties and these things DID happen, you'll regret it. im glad i waited until i was in my twenties to decide on who i want to go out with, you make better choices when you're matured. it's not all about looks, or how rich he is or whatever -- you start to look for somebody who "matches" you -- somebody you will get along with. doesn't have to be goodlooking or what, but somebody you can love --
i always tell people love is always about humility and selflessness --
ask yourself, are you really willing to "give your everything" to this guy? not to expect anything in return, but if you really love a person, all you want to do is give, give, and give -- and the other does the same (if he loves you too) -- so it's almost like a "give-and-take" kind of relationship -- which i find successful, not only in love life, but also friend-to-friend, mother-to-daughter, sister-to-sister as well.
and also if he loves you, he'll wait. he could go to jail if he pursues this kind of arrangement.

Answer 5

Yes my dear, you do need an adults advice. I am sure that you are mature and are capable of loving someone at your age, but a 30 year old is completly unacceptable. You definitly need to get this out of your system and find someone your own age with the same interests. You are a child and are dealing with a sick adult, because anyone 30yrs dealing with a 14 year old is sick. This person is old enough to be your parent. Stop talking to this person immediatly and move on. Please!! Be careful

Answer 6

I think you should talk to your school counselor or another adult you trust about this. It is illegal for a 30-year-old to have a relationship with a 14-year-old, and although that may seem wrong to you now, it might make sense to you sometime in the future. I think it is okay to tell him you like him, but not okay to have more than a friendship with him. Why ruin what you already have by telling him anyways? Please talk to an adult in your life about this.

Answer 7

You're experiencing the onset of puberty. That is what hormones do to you. It is easy to idealize a situation like that at your age. But believe me, you are only at the tip of the iceberg... BE CAREFUL. What you're feeling now is very likely puppy love. I know it doesn't feel that way but it is. Give yourself some time to grow up before you start acting on stuff like this. Talk to a counselor at your high school.

Answer 8

I have serious doubts about a 30 year old that likes to hang out with a 14 year old.

Is there some adult in your life that knows both of you that you could talk to?

Answer 9

Sweetie, this person is too old for you and it's probably just infatuation that you feel for him because he probably makes you feel good about yourself. What kind of a man would want to hang out with a 14 year old unless he is a child molester and is luring you into his web. Please talk to your parents and let them know how you are feeling so that nothing bad will happen to you.

Answer 10

First, stay in school, learn how to spell. Then don't get involved. Your too young to have a relationship with him, and quite often it is one of those puberty hormone things that will vanish when you see a cute guy your own age. Just try not to spend so much time with him, and associate yourself with people your own age.