I know this my sound crazy but maybe suggest watch some kind of erotic material that would probably make him more excited than you and see if that helps.
2006-06-16 08:27:33
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answered by Anonymous
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He may be afraid of being rejected. If you are his first GF, or are early in your relationship, then he is still in learning mode and is not sure what your boundaries are. He may have been rejected by other girls and just is not comfortable with being the one in charge. Too many rejections and some guys will just give up and let the girl be in control - it is just easier for some guys that way.
Remember too, it may be just easier for him to sit back (also read as: be lazy about it) and let you be in control of the relationship's sex life. If you're a horny girl, he may be getting all the sex he needs. You should back off of initiating it for a while and see what he does. After a few days of not having sex with you, he should start being more touchy-feely. If he does this, encourage him, but do not take control. Let him continue on and see what he does. If he does not to initiate it, then you may need to move on as his sex drive may be less than yours.
You need someone to match your needs, not just meet his alone.
2006-06-16 08:40:52
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answered by Wolf 3
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unfortunately, people are different, some ladies love men to ask for it gently, others like you want it more agressive. There is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with the way you want it, but he's the type of guy that wouldn't do that, he might change for a while but ultimately he will revert to who he is, the "gentle" type so you just have to get used to it. Sorry but that's who he is and you are who you are.
2006-06-16 08:29:15
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answered by nkirejc 1
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I know you've told him already but best thing is to explain ti again but with emphasis on him taking the initiative to do something.
You might also want to seek a couple's counselor to speak to both of you about this.
2006-06-16 08:30:08
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answered by Phoenix Reborn 2
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i know this might sound cliche, but you might wanna try the pick up the bar of soap naked thing in front of him.....
i can tell you love him a lot, try being subtle because i'm sure he feels horrible for not complying already..... find out which part of your body he find totally attractive and use that part to get him to be a good dog! you just need time to learn how to manipulate him into thinking that YOU are seducing him instead of him INITIATING it...... its all in the mind baby.
try playing sexy games with him..... you know,those board games kind. just be really creative i guess.
try talking to him too but be sure not to blame him or be angry at him. it cant be easy for him......
good luck ;)
2006-06-17 10:17:41
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answered by Rainbow nation 3
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Show him what you like. Even take his hands or arms and move them for him, like it's him initiating. It'll be a game and then he'll start doing it himself. It might help him get used to being more aggressive, if he wants to.
It might just be a deal breaker.
2006-06-16 08:31:38
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answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7
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You are trying to change his basic personality to suit yours. Probably it won't work. Either learn to accept his personality or find a sex partner who is more compatible with you.
2006-06-16 08:28:00
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answered by Mycroft 5
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Keep reminding him what you want him to do, especially during sex. He will already be hot so getting him to do what you want should come easier.
2006-06-16 08:25:16
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answered by akiastatz 3
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i would try to find what drives him crazy about sex, like does he like sexy panties on you and nothing else, be seductive without actually asking, walk naked in front of him but like you dont know it. maybe he just needs to get his motor running. good luck
2006-06-16 08:29:39
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answered by harmonyandericjrburns 2
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Well tell him that if he wants any then he will have to do four play with you other wise he aint getting none.
2006-06-17 19:07:08
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answered by Chelsea 1
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