i feel like giving up.......?

Question

i can't take life anymore, i have no real friends, none that acually would wanna hang out with me. i have no one to talk to when i have problems, and i just wanna feel loved by someone. i don't really get along with my parents and i get mad at them so much and i just don't feel love from them i know they do love me i just don't feel it. i am so sick of felling lonley. i just wish i knew what it was that made ppl think i am gay and not wanna be around me. and it's mainly the ppl my age that are mean to me. at this point i just wanna run away from home and be myself cause i think it will just be easier cause i feel i will always be loney anyway. any suggestions on what i should do?

Answer 1

Sweetheart, please e-mail me directly. When you click on my name (goblin g) you will be able to e-mail a message to me. I'd be more than happy to give you my e-mail, be friends with you, and to speak with you.

Please DON'T hurt yourself. You do have more friends than you know. People (young people in particular) are cruel to each other. They are trying to hide their own pain by picking on someone else.

You are right - your parents DO love you. They would be devastated if something were to happen to you. Please, please speak with them immediately and tell them your concerns.

Don't worry if other people think you are Gay. It doesn't matter if you are or if you are not (or if you are undecided). That is your business, and your business alone.

Running away will not solve anything, but to hurt your parents and to put yourself in danger.

Love to you....Please e-mail me. I'm on-line for about another hour.

Answer 2

Well, besides saying your very lonely, the only other factor I hear about you is that your gay, and by the way you write your question, I am surmising that that is a critical factor in your life as you see it. That is such a powerful factor in people's lives because it is so very personal, and nowadays it's so politically and socially charged an issue that you find people taking sides more vigorously than before. It seems, by the way you pose your question, that none of your family or friends around you are gay, and so you're in "hostile" territory, so to speak. Plus, I note in your words prior to mentioning that you're gay, you say how you and your parents don't get along and that you don't "feel" loved. If you've never heard of the term "dysfunctional" family, check into it. You may be from such a family, and sharing loving feelings is the #1 thing they can't do, or do very well. A counselor that has some knowledge and experience in seriously dealing with dysfunctional family issues might be a real good resource for you. An interesting additional resource for you is the best of the New York Times Best-Seller list in non-fictional material, a book written by well reknowned psychiatrist M. Scott Peck, M.D., entitled "The Road Less Traveled". The book was written in 1978 and stayed on the NY Times best-seller list longer than any other book, fiction or non-fiction. The book is divided into four sections. The second section is entitled "Love", and in there he states, "Love is not a feeling." He makes a very strong case for his statement. By that I mean a very mature case for his statement. He continues by pointing out that people often mistake "loving feelings" as being love, and says that only when people get beyond that mistake do they actually CHOSE to love someone, or not. It'd be a great book for you. It might actually still be selling in some bookstores, or they can order it for you. Some public libraries in bigger cities may actually have a copy. I know I bought my local library several copies of it to put on their shelves, and they did. Check on that book, but also check with a counselor, maybe at a public mental health clinic where they have sliding scale fees, and see if anyone there is knowledgeable about dysfunctional families. You might make great headway into your issues there. God Bless you.

Answer 3

(1) Dear, I carefully read all the things what you have written. In my opinion it is a problem related with your attitude and it is a very simple matter to be corrected. Therefore you do not worry about that.

(2) Actually if you want to get out from this mental problem , It will be very simple. Therefore you should be a real and a success man. The first seed of the your success can only be born in your mind by the attitudes that you often create.Therefore there are 7 factors behind it as I concern.

a) Make a wide vision to your life.
b) Make a pragmatic process to be reality to your vision well.
c) Dedicate much staying on the vision which you step out.
d) keep a good human relation.
e) Often try to live in an environmental friendly environment.
f) Meditate minimally twice in a day to acquire a calm mind when you are getting up and going to sleep.( there is a psychological background)
g) Try to live in a simple life style and always try to live away from the material society.

If you are able to make a space to apply the above mentioned 7 types of process, your success will be at your doorstep and the problems that you have will also be stepped from you.
Applying it honestly after one month, please tell me the results what you get.
Please study my profile to identify the importance of the ideas that I have mentioned.

Answer 4

These are the classic signs of depression. There are medicines that can help you. Please ask your parents to make an appointment with your Dr. or talk to a school counselor. There is no need to suffer with this curable ailment.

You can find friends. Join clubs at school. Join the yearbook or newspaper staff. Try photography or chess. There is something for everybody. Is there a youth group at your church? Do you play an instrument? Sing? Do you have a goal? Remember that some of the most famous people you can imagine were loners and not popular in HS: Bill Gates, Tom Cruise, Stephen King ... to name a few. Someday, you will be able to look back at this period and realize what was really important.

Answer 5

Dude, I didn't even read your whole thing
because
It's always the same ****
We feel down when we have no sense of self-worth
Yes
It is that simple
and no,
my friend
I am not trivializing your individual problems
because
they feel very real to you at this moment
but
had you "something to live for",
your life wouldn't be sucking out loud right now
and
the answer is not always in the form of other people in your life...
You need You in your life right now, dude.
Who better to watch your back than you?
I mean, all things considered, you are the only one who will always be there. Nuff said.
Not really...
Self-worth: What are you interested in? For your life to have "meaning", you have to be INVOLVED.
Discover a kickass hobby.
Get fascinated by something.
Let something inspire you.
Learn about something that blows your mind.
Change things.
Take control.
Make life neat again.
Remember that childhood wonder, when there was always something new to discover?
Well, that wonderful, interesting, baffling, intriguing life is still out there - it surrounds you.
When we let ourselves get mired in an endless crappy mood, the phenomenally interesting life we were granted seems to just wash on by, and we lose our respect for it.
Acknowledge Life, friend.

Answer 6

Don't give up. All the things you are talking about are just circumstantial and will change. You sound like a teenager, so take some comfort in the fact that a LOT of kids your age feel this way. You are not weird or unlovable. Give yourself a chance to get to the place and time when love will find you. You are already perfect the way you are, and I know that without even having met you. Hang in there. There is love for you and all you have to do is expect it.

Answer 7

Young people are cruel. A lot of the cruelty stems from them being young, impressionable and inexperienced.
I would suggest going to an open-minded church and getting involved with groups there. You may also want to try volunteering at a local hospital, library, animal shelter or any organization that needs help. There is a lot of validation in giving your time, talents and resources to people in need. No matter what your age is, you can help. Hopefully, that will make you feel less lonely. I'm sorry the people your age are not friendly or very loving. You may be one of those very special young "old souls" and that would make you smart, loyal, caring, and interesting. Please don't let the people who don't appreciate your character bring you down.

Answer 8

I'm sorry mate, you should never feel like giving up.
Dare to Persevere. Why is it that no one wants to hang out with you? The world is a tough place, I know. Society was designed so that the weak fail, but it's about fighting for your place in society. Parents are difficult, I know. I suggest going to church or something where people tend to be less critical (once they are outside church, they'll become critical again). But at least you need to find ways to garner strength. Your question sounds like you're considering suicide.

PLEASE DON'T JUMP. lol. **** people who think you're gay. People use that word to feel better about themselves. Why do you want to run away from home though? Do you think the rest of the world will be any gentler? Mothers and Fathers are biologically designed to protect. I hope that you can sit down with them and figure things out. Don't get mad, don't get into heated arguments. Usually adults are 100% correct. I know, I hated. But it's the truth.

Hope you find something that you can enjoy to keep going. Don't give up!

Answer 9

Well..first of all..don't give up! I must be honest and let you know that nearly everyone feels like this at times. It's like the feeling that you are really alone, and isolated in the world..and that you don't really have anyone.

Whenever I think like this (and I have a lot going on in my life and still feel like this from time to time) I count my blessings. I think of all of the people who need and love me in my life. I think of how lucky I am to not be living where there is war, or extreme poverty. I think that I am lucky to have a roof over my head, food, and all of the stuff I need.

If that doesn't help..I would suggest that you maybe talk to a personal counselor/ therapist. It can be helpful to talk about your feelings, and work through your problems.

Answer 10

Don't give up. I sounds like you are depressed for one thing. Have you talked to a Dr. about anti-depressants? I don't know how old you are, but we all go through stages where our parents really bug us, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. It's part of the natural process of differentiation, and the need we all have to leave our parents and become our own person.
I'm sorry you are lonely, but part of it is a vicious cycle. People don't like to hang out with someone who is always feeling down, and who feels badly about themselves.
If you are in high school, then just know that kids can be very mean, but don't let yourself be defined by what others think of you. Determine for yourself who you are, and be yourself.
I encourage you to find someone, like a counselor, to talk with and help you sort through some of these issues.
It gets better. Hang in there!

Answer 11

is there some kind of a group you would like to get into at school or church, if so try for that . and besides you do have freinds, some that you will never see . but we are out here . it,s freinds like us that is on here answering you right now we care . if we didn,t we would leave this unanswered as for your parents, try to see that they do love you and are looking out for you , you might not see that now but in time you will see that they knew what they where talking about . they have been in your shoes to some where down the line.just think of it this way some where you have a freind that is feeling just like you do now you just have to fine that person . I hope this has helped you in some way and I hope that tommow looks a lot better than today does good luck