It was love at first sight for me and my boyfriend but my family hasnt met him and already hates him. They say because hes a roofer he'll never be able to give me what I deserve. But I believe they are just racist, hes mexican and they are german, but Im half german half mexican! They say thay he'll beat me, but hes as sweet as can be. Im also afraid of getting pregnant, because it will cause more problems, we are very careful but still. I love this guy and my family too. Hes madly in love with me, he wants to wait until Im done with college to even consider marriage. Just to be close to him gives me goosebumps, he makes me laugh, its just my family doesnt like him and I know if they meet him they will just put me down saying how ugly he his or that hes poor or stupid. But though the fights with my family, and getting fired because of my family hes still with me and wants to be with me. Please help me!
2006-06-16 07:55:31 · 13 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that happend to me..mine is an arabic construction worker so they accused him of wanting to marry me for his papers (which he had before he knew me) and he would beat me, make me cover my body, all this crazy stuff.... u guys have true love like me and him we stuck it out and got married and are so happy now my parents still dont approve..they like him cuz he treats me like a princess but they cant get past his ethnic background and what they believe all foreign ppl are like..it sucks but if u guys truly love each other i know u can make it..it sounds like u have what it takes..just stick to ur guns and dont let them change ur opinion of him.
2006-06-16 07:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon~
First of all, breath. It'll be fine, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. As much as it sucks, you can't change how your family feels about him, only they can, and unfortunately if you don't they don't, and you may just have to decide which side of the line you want to be on at thwe end of the day. But for right now, try letting them meet him, get to know him a little, and see how they feel after they see the two of you interact and such.
2006-06-16 08:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by diasia9622 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm that is difficult. Your family or your love? I think the answer is you. You are the one who has to decide. I can see both sides of the fence and if you choose him will it upset your family? Will they accept you if you go against their wishes? How will you feel about upsetting them? Can you work out the differences? You have a difference in culture and education. Will that matter to you later in life? Does he love you as much as you do him?If you side with your family will you regret it later? All tough questions. Truly go slow and think it through, the answer will come to you. Don't get preg until you are sure. Good Luck
2006-06-16 08:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off there is no such thing as love at first sight. i have a mexican too and he works real hard. he takes care of me better than any white guy ever would. he is not rich but he truly loves me. it really depends on how old you are. if you are over 20 years old than do what you want cause your judgement will be better than if you were 16. if you are younger than just keep dating him and listen to you parents cause they know whats best but i would not stop seeing him if my parents were just being racist. nothing worse than racist.
2006-06-16 08:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by guerisky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your family has not met him then what the hell are they ding making accusations about him? That is completely unfair to him, also unless they know for a fact that he has hit you then they should not say things like that. The best thing i think for you to do is to just tell your family that you really don't appriciate they way they talk about him when they haven't even met him
2006-06-16 08:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sherry D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to what your family is saying but it doesn't mean you have to do what they say. You need to be careful and not get pregnant. You need to take things slow and see how the relationship goes when the goosebumps go away but you should still be with him now and see how things go.
2006-06-16 08:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Family Is in the Wrong, but you should respect their feelings towards this Matter. for you would feel just as distressed if they said Nothing and cared not who you was with. Do not Judge your family in this. Go forth to them with courage and say I love this Man and will contiue to be with him. but do this with Love and kindness and in your own words. remember love is patient love is kind love is gentle and does not envy it trusts all and believes all. follow your heart and Pray to god for guidance and what to do.
and I read one of the Anwsers someone put No racism is not the wirse thing ever. not being able to be with the one or ones you love is the worst thing ever
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2006-06-16 08:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your family. You will regret him the rest of your life and maybe mess up chances with a good man. Don't have sex with him and you won't get pregnant.
2006-06-16 08:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by me29876_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt make sense that you are half mexican and they dont like him cause he's mexican. I'm sure they dont like him cause they dont think he's good enough for you. They want you with someone who is comparable economically.
2006-06-16 08:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Baconbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't listen to them. At least you will always have a roof over your head. And a roofer in your bed.
2006-06-16 07:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋