I've been married three years now and since day one I've been dealing with bullshit. Why? dont damn know..myanbe cuz i was too young when i got married..but 3 months after I got married I had a miscarriage then a month later I found out he had a baby on the way, after baby was born startin sendin emails to baby mama talkin bout love her and ****, few months after that kicked me out and moved them in, moved back in months later, same emails, still cheating, i get pregnant, never home, gets deployed, while deployed find out the baby mama got pregnant AGAIN, baby the same age as mine...still accepted it still with him, dont think im inlove with him no more, just love him cuz he baby daddy..constantly says I love u to me then says to her once im sleep..disrespectful, verbally abusive.....im getting too old for this ****..what do you say...enough?
2006-06-16 07:36:16 · 27 answers · asked by sexyhester0603 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married three years now and since day one I've been dealing with bullshit. Why? dont damn know..myanbe cuz i was too young when i got married..but 3 months after I got married I had a miscarriage then a month later I found out he had a baby on the way, after baby was born startin sendin emails to baby mama talkin bout love her and ****, few months after that kicked me out and moved them in, moved back in months later, same emails, still cheating, i get pregnant, never home, gets deployed, while deployed find out the baby mama got pregnant AGAIN, baby the same age as mine...still accepted it still with him, dont think im inlove with him no more, just love him cuz he baby daddy..constantly says I love u to me then says to her once im sleep..disrespectful, verbally abusive.....im getting too old for this **** I just feel like if im givin him chance after chance i should be treated like a queen due to all the **** he put me thru...what do you say...enough?
2006-06-16 07:39:40 · update #1
enough was enough when you found out he got another girl pregnant the first time!!!! but since you didn't stand up to him then you are continually taking **** from him, and why not? apparently its ok because he does incredibly ridiculous stuff that screams to you that he doesn't love you and couldn't care less how much he hurts you and you are still there, so why should he quit exactly? why should he treat you with respect and dignity? you don't require it of him. if he is a verbally abusive cheater he will do nothing but teach your child to be the same kind of person and hopefully you want your child to be and do better than that.
look, make yourself a list of the things that you believe love looks like, acts like and feels like, see how many of the things he actually does are on it. you are listening to words that are so clearly meaningless, he only says them to keep you there so he has something to mess with, that apparently is what he gets off on, treating people like crap and watching them stay anyway. never believe someones words when their actions so clearly demonstrate the opposite. don't forget too that this guy is damaged goods, he does what he does because of problems he has in his head its NOT about you, he probably grew up watching the same behavior, but that isn't your problem and it isn't your childs and you can't fix it and its not a good enough excuse to put up with it, he's an adult and should be able to control himself and decide to be better but HE CHOOSES not to. get out and get yourself some counselling to help you figure out why you were so lacking in self respect and self esteem that you would let someone treat you this way and stay, do it for you and your child. but don't stay with him another minute!! good luck to you, there is so much better in the world, go get yourself some, you can do it and you deserve it!!
2006-06-16 08:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A man will do what you allow him to. obviously you are not tired yet because you accept it which sends the message to him its okay to do what you are doing. By you sticking around reassures him, nomatter what he does you will still be there. Enough was along time when you got married and found out about the other baby. He shouldnt have never married u if his interest was else wear. You are not switch to turn on and off at his convenience and if you dont stand up for yourself you will continue to be a victim to this emotional abuse. Make an end to this and do fast. And dont let your child be the excuse to cause you to make dumb decisions by putting up with this disrespect. Baby Daddy or not gives him no right to do those things to you. Just remember karma is something else so he will pay eventually just pray to god to help with this situation and i promise it will get better but remember a man only do what you allow him to do.
2006-06-16 08:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason he treats you the way he does is because you allow him to do so! If you truly believed you deserved better, you would have been out of there long ago. Work on the issues within yourself and you will see that there is a whole other world out there where people actually treat each other with respect - you'll be much better off once you learn to respect yourself and leave that guy you're with!
2006-06-16 07:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on Girl!! You already know the answer. Do you think you deserve a better than the life you are living? Also, what are you teaching your baby? That it 's ok to take this from a man just because he donated some sperm and knocked you up? Hope you don't have any daughters, then again you'ld be setting an example for your sons too.
2006-06-16 07:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is Enough! Is when the first time your spouse is caught red handed cause it is still stuck in the cookie jar. I honestly believe that once you lose your trust for that person the relationship will never be the same weather your spouse changes completely or not because there will always be doubt in the relationship and love will eventually fade away...so you don't need to waste time on preventing the inevitable just go ahead send your best wishes and move on to bigger and better things.
2006-06-16 08:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by JBizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like hell! Assuming he got the other girl pregnant while you were married the first time, that should have been when you left. So leave him and never look back, and try to use complete sentences when looking for a new man.
2006-06-16 07:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by shadyaftermath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey listen thats enough lol..u needto give upon it he sounds like the sleeziest guy alive..sorry for that but u can do much better and deserve it. hes playing u both....its not fair to u, hiskids or the other woman..get out now and tell him what a jerk he is..u dont have to love someonelike that just cuz hes ur baby daddy u c an find a guy who loves u and ur baby.....i wish u luck.
2006-06-16 07:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that bad behavior will ever stop if there are no consequences.
Every relationship has a rocky road someday, that's cause for tolerance; but if there is never a smooth raod, if there is no evidence that he loves you; if he is not faithful; if he is not truthful - act accordingly.
LEAVE without further warning
-OR-
Communicate the terms and conditions of your continued relationship (if you want it to continue) then if these conditions are violated - LEAVE.
2006-06-16 07:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god u are f---ing good girl i wolud have been gone and never looked back kicked u out to move them in and u come back 2 babies on u and married r u crazy girl get some knowledge and strength oh my god leave dont look back first get a job save money look into a place for u and the baby and when hes not home pack and leave go to court get child support and visitation for him to see the baby get the divorce on the ball google divorce-ease its cheap and easy i got my divorce threw them go get tested for std's dont lay up with him nomore dont get mad when he talks to the other dont argue no more just know in the back of your mind you are going to be out of the situation soon please leave and if you have a mother or father that you can stay with and save money that way go now i wish u luck dont take no more cramp leave
2006-06-16 07:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is enough a long time ago, but now it has to be for real, it this the kind life you want to show your child? That this behavior of their father is okay? You need to think of your child now and say enough is enough and go on your way. If not you are going to regret it when your child sees it and you see the hurt in their eyes.
2006-06-16 08:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋