my attitude and my yelling is about to cause my divorce! help find find ways to control it please!
2006-06-16 07:27:45 · 14 answers · asked by Maribel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need an anger pillow.
An anger pillow is a pillow you use to vent your frustrations so you do not allow them to build up.
When others will not be disturbed, assault your anger pillow all you want.
Only you can control your outbursts and they are usually a means of getting attention. Babies cry to get attention, adults do the same thing when they yell and scream or cry. They want attention.
So, you need to ask yourself why you are in such desperate need of attention. Perhaps you should also get a pet that will give you attention.
2006-06-16 07:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Left the building 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to know why you are so angry and yelling. Is it really worth doing that? When you have a situation that upsets you, take a moment and ask yourself, do I really want to get that angry and upset about this? Then sit down together and talk about it! No yelling, make sure you listen to each other without interuption! You will both have your chance to state your opinion or point. Also learn to compromise with each other and try to stay more positive about things. There is always at least some good in most everything. Look for that first then seek the answers you want with a positive tone.
I wish you luck
2006-06-16 09:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recognize what you have no business trying to control. Allow your husband to be who he is. Support him regardless of whether you agree with him or not (unless it is abusive or illegal).
Anger is the feeling that results from the inability to control a situation. If you aren't supposed to control it, then you won't be able to which will frustrate you and cause anger.
He can't hear you any better if you yell and it only escalates the situation.
When you are angry, don't even discuss controversial issues. Go someplace neutral and stay there until you have calmed down and thought out the situation. Stop being offended and love and appreciate him for who he is. You don't want to be forcibly changed, neither does he.
I am a Christian woman who practices submission (NOT subservience) with my husband. I love him, respect him and recognize him as the head of our home. In exchange, he loves me, cherishes me and appreciates my efforts and my opinions. He pampers me and supports me in my interests. I am truly blessed. Do we always agree. NO! NO! NO!
But we have learned to respect each other personally and each other's opinions. If we can't resolve an issue in 15 minutes, we let it go and come back to it later when we have each had a chance to calm down and think about what the other was saying.
2006-06-16 07:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more help than any of us here can get you, but admitting you have a problem is the first step. And that's good. A good therapist, anger management classes or even medication can help you to express your anger in proper channels instead of yelling all the time. Don't put it off...if you love yourself and your husband especially, get the help you need today. You'll feel much better once you do and I bet once you make the effort, your husband will be glad to help you work with your problem. Good luck to you!
2006-06-16 07:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take nice long, mind clearing walks. That is what my anger management therapist suggested and it worked wonders for me. Whenever you feel like you are gonna blow, drop everything(you might want to let family members know to expect you are going to be doing this periodically) Head for the door and don't come back until you cool off. It takes some getting used to, but now I love my time alone to clear my head with a little fresh air.
Good Luck
2006-06-16 07:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up exercise it will help you cope with your temper. Also remember this many times it just makes things much worse to yell and get pissy. Men get tired of it, as you would if the shoe were on the other foot. Get a grip. Try running, it will chill you out and help you think things through.
2006-06-16 07:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, if you love your husband, divorce him !! If you cannot control yourself when you KNOW you have a very real problem, why are you punishing him by staying around. If you are as bad as you sound, he may welcome the relief...at least take 5 days off a week and give him some space. You need more help than you will find here!
2006-06-16 07:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try yoga or meditation or reading or maybe getting your nails done just once a week. something for yourself that can help you relax. like, set aside 15 or 20 minutes a day just to meditate or do yoga....and one more point. think about this: do you want a divorce? don't you want the best for your spouse? just think on that and you'll realize that if you really love him, you'll want the best for him, and you'll want him happy, and that will make you happy. therefore: no more anger! (did i just make a point?)lol hope this helps
2006-06-16 07:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by jesus_freak1026 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why you are so angry. I would talk to your doctor and maybe try some Zoloft. It will help you mellow out.
2006-06-16 07:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try anger management classes.
2006-06-16 07:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋