he's a nice guy but then his temper drives me crazy.he listenes to false rumours about me,gets angry,doesnt talk to me 4 days and comes back apologising ater he finds out the truth.i'm fed up but i dont want to hurt his feelings because i see him as a special friend.
2006-06-16 07:05:14 · 20 answers · asked by missy 3A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People who are abusive, whether it be physically, verbally, or emotionally, are number one, as a male, more likely to do this to a female. Because they do not have the guts to go against a male. And yes, they will come back and apologize, and then do it again, and apologize, and do it again, and apologize, and do it again, and apologize, and do it again, and apologize. See a patten here? People like that, depend on the kindness of others, to not go up against Them, and to demand that this type of behavior be stopped. When You say a special friend, if You mean abusive, You are correct. And You are not doing them any favors, by allowing this to continue. His self esteem is real low, and chances are more likely than not, this stems back from His Childhood. And there is also a reason in Your past, that allows this to seem like the norm. Doesn't mean You can't try to help Him, You just have to be out of harm's way to do so. He needs some Anger Management. That is where I would start. And Be Careful, this is only going to escalate, get bigger, larger, more difficult to handle, intensify, go awry. Don't set Yourself up for a life like this. If Your a Minor, get your Families assistance. You have to shine light into the darkness, unless You want to be left in the dark, alone, one day, to deal with it by Yourself. If You think that I am being overdramatic, don't do anything, let things stay the same way, and then write us back in a couple of months, if You can. I have worked in this area, for many years, where this is almost an every day fact of life. Some get lucky, some don't.
God Bless
2006-06-16 08:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs psychological therapy. Something is wrong with him. First of all, he shouldn't listen to every rumor he hears, no matter who the rumor came from. Second, if someone tells him something about you, have him make that person who told that rumor, prove it true. Otherwise, is all trash, and can send you both to complete termination.
If he does not want to seek professional help, then it is better for you to leave him. Do be aware that he may get possessive with you, as many people with bad tempers tend to get possessive most of the time. But definitely seek professional help for him. Get this act straightened up and live happy with each other without crap.
2006-06-16 07:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to be friends with this person if I were you. If you have a lot of patience with him, tell it like it is to him and hopefully, he'll listen. He has some anger issues that only he can resolve and I know that you don't want to hurt his feelings. This is something that he has to do for himself and he needs to stop listening to rumors about you. Everyone loves juicy gossip and he should know that. If this person is NOT willing to listen to you, find a new friend. Good friends are hard to find these days and it takes a while to gain trust. He doesn't sound like a trustworthy person to me. Tell him that you're fed up and it is up to him to straighten up his act. If not, you're done being his friend.
2006-06-16 07:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok chick!!! i know exactly what you mean.... my EX boyfriend and me were the BEST of friends and then he started being like that... he band me from talking to guys!!! and **** like that! you need to let go of him NOW!!! he's my stalker now... dont get a stalker it's crazy!!! he even pushed my head against some lockersn cause i wouldnt talk to him... you might think "oh he would never do that" that was my same reaction.... so i dont think yall should go out but it's really all up to you... When you get tired of it then you'll leave.
2006-06-16 07:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by lemon wedgie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the hell out of that relationship NOW.
This is just an indicator of things to come. He's controlling, manipulative and abusive - even if he hasn't laid a finger on you yet. Psychological abuse can be just as destructive as a broken jaw, believe me!
2006-06-16 07:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hav fallen for a bad guy...u might become a victim to relationship abusal...better late than never...BREAK OFF UR RELATIONSHIP i say...u wil not regret later on if u do as i am advicing but if u continue with ur relationship u wl hav plenty to regret later on...plus the longer u stay ...more difficult it wil b 4 u to break up with him...and on the other hand he might just start taking ur sweet nature for granted and start abusing u physically...AM SAYING THIS FROM MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
2006-06-16 08:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by sweet soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to discuss his lack of trust in you. You dont want to hurt him but what about the fact that his behaviour is upsetting you? There is no need to be nasty toward him, just tell him he is upsetting you by being this way and ask him to explain or just to stop. Maybe there are underlying issues within your relationship that need to be resolved
2006-06-16 07:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by lovely lil me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man with a temper you feel is uncontrollable is not a man that you should be with. He needs help and if you are a good girlfriend you should make sure that he gets the help that he needs.
2006-06-16 07:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - First thing - Leave him alone - he's not a good person to be friends with...
The reason he's like that is that he likes/loves you & gets jellous - but he doesnt know how to separate friendships from relationships
2006-06-20 04:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY...I repeat...STAY AWAY from him!
These are signs of an abuser - someone with incontrollable rages, who then apologizes and kisses up to you, someone who is jealous and unreasonable...this is someone who is BAD NEWS!
Trust me, there are plenty of other guys who will make you feel just as special...without later stalking you, hitting you, or destroying your self-esteem.
2006-06-16 07:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Marjorie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋