Why does society often shun old-fashioned men?

Question

I am, without a doubt, an "old fashioned" man. I believe it is a man's job to provide for his family. I believe in abstinence until marriage. I believe in "until depth do you part". I believe a man ought to love his wife as "Christ loves the Church". I belive a man should defend a woman, even to death. I believe a man should never hurt a woman. I believe family comes before career. I believe, with the exception of work, a man's place is with his family at home. How can a man lead a home when he's never there?!

In the same respect, I believe a woman should be prepared and ready to mother a child, if she intends to have one. I believe a woman should honour her husband, as he should her. I do not believe a woman should put feminism before her husband. I believe, as with the man, a woman should be with her family.

However, most people will react to my values with anger. They will react as if men, as I, are the ones ruining women's lives. What is your perception of a man as I?

Thank you

Understand, I believe it is the father's job to help at home and raise children as well. A man should not think his work is complete after 8 hours. I hate laziness.

Answer 1

It sounds like you would be a great husband! Stick to your values and don't compromise. There are still women out there who who share and appreciate your values. I know they are becomming more few and far between, but don't give up. Pray and ask Gdo to show you the right woman. He is faithful. Your heart and values are awesome and He will bless that.

Best of luck and many blessings.

Answer 2

I agree with you. I've seen several marriages where this principle was applied and it worked really well.

You can't have two captains for one ship. If the husband is a good leader, then the wife need not worry and can be supportive. I personally am quite glad not to be a man. The responsibility is tremendous.

I think people get angry because they think they should be able to do what they want and when they want and do not like to be defined and controlled. But I feel that in an ideal marriage, you should take on the roles that are best suited for you and not try to take over the partner's jobs. And often times, that means doing what you just stated.

Being honourable, being with the family, bearing children...all wonderful things. Someone can find great joy in that. And that does not mean being barefoot and pregnant at home, being a maid and cook...not at all.

Abstinence in marriage is the best kept secret for a happy life. We are too driven by the need for instant gratification that we tend to overlook this idea.

Answer 3

These are lovely values, but don't really apply to real life. I think society would be healthier if more men and women both took responsibility seriously. Life happens, and if you don't deal with it, it runs you over. Feminism means more than one thing, and women should be allowed to have opinions too. After all, if I didn't look out for myself, who would? I can't wait for someone to volunteer to ensure I have rights! In today's "me first" societal approach, if you aren't assertive, someone will take advantage of you.

How many times have you been cut off on the sidewalk, or on the highway? People cannot slow down or show what used to be "common courtesy".

I'm not angry at a man who wants to be a gentleman, it would be refreshing!

As to putting a husband first, been there, done that, won't do it again. I have raised a child on my own with absolutely NO support from anyone (yes, not even financial). Yes, it was my choice not to give the child up for adoption. I did not avoid my responsibility! I also put myself through university to have a better job. Not everyone has the opportunities I did. With current budget cuts, I don't think as many people will be able to afford higher education.

Since I don't have a double income, I can barely afford a comfortable standard of living. I think many people are frustrated with the current economic situation. I cannot forsee it improving in the near future.

Answer 4

It really depends who you ask. You apparently feel somewhat victimized by the culture (I have no idea if you're married or not), but it sounds like you're pushing the rules and Biblical principles so much that it's turning some people off. Just be who God intended you to be, and check out the book Wild at Heart. Women are wild at heart just like us, and many of them feel marginalized by our culture and the church as well. To tell you the truth... many people share many of the same values as you do, but don't worry so much about how your values may be different from someone else's, just be who God intended for you to be. If you're married, be good to your wife, but if you're single and dating (which I assume is the impetus for this message) don't try to have list of requirements and blame it on society when things don't work out for you. God calls some of us to be in relationships and others to singleness, and wherever you are right now you're there because God has a reason for it, and perhaps you should explore that a little bit more and His will first. Perhaps things will become clearer for you then. Blessings,

Brian

Answer 5

I like your values, but I also must say that in many cases women in these relationships are also the ones stuck at home as only a housewife, which is unfait to the wife to be only that whereas the man could persue his dream career. Other than that I hold similar values

Answer 6

I think its more important that you stick to your values, they sound just fine by me just as long as you have a woman who knows all that before hand and doesn't mind the responsiblities of raising children for the most part by herself. Personally I guess I'm 'newfashioned', my wife wants a career and I do to but I think I'd have less problems giving one up for a few years to raise kids, I think in our society its easyer for men to get back into the work force than it is for women. Maybe we're dreaming, but we think it should be possible to both work part time and share the responsibility, but that might prove to be hard. I guess you need to ask yourself too if part of what you want is to have a woman at home waiting with dinner ready, kids cleaned with homework done, laundry hung and ready for you to go back to work the next morning, because its that type of image that most aggravates women. Because rasing kids is a full time job too, and when women do it, at least from what I've heard, they resent men who come home and perch themselves infront of the tube and expect to be served because they 'bring home the bread'

Answer 7

There is a big difference between old fashion and a bible blabbing narrow minded fool. I think your a brainwashed, church going, "George Bush" voting, idiot. You anger people because we can't believe that narrow minded jerk-offs like yourself are still alive and reproducing today. I feel sorry for you wife or any women who isn't treated like a complete equal.

I bet you have a "pro-life" bumper sticker don't you!! Saving the world one bumper at a time.........

Answer 8

i believe that those values are a thing of the past and that this is as it should be

you are continuing with trying to control women, tell them what their role is, and lord over them as a boss

Answer 9

because most men convay their opinion in the wrong way if you yell at your girl in public people dont like that. it all depends on the way you treat your woman in public and private . if she doesnt like the way you treat her she will tell someone and that person will agree with her. there is nothing wrong with believing in what you believe. its just you need to find someone who agrees with your beliefs and youll be happy. it will be hard because todays society believes in equalty.

Answer 10

It suits them for their selfish goal