i hate it when i meet someone and have to tell them that i have kids cause then they think that i want then to help me support them when thats not the case at all. i work full time i go to school and do all the cleaning i just hate when they get the wrong picture in there head
2006-06-16 06:49:31 · 7 answers · asked by angel_blue_tattoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a single mom and this happens to me all of the time. I have a very good job, a 3 bed/3bth house, two cars, and no chance of ever getting child support. Everyone thinks they should take care of me though.
I DON"T WANT ANYONE TO TAKE CARE OF ME. I just want someone to support me emotionally. Is that so hard? I have worked very hard to get where I am at and proud of it.
I get the other end of it ,too, though when I tell a guy what I do and they have a good idea of how much money I make then there are instant "sugarmomma" insinuations. I will not date someone who makes less money than me because i spent 13 years taking care of my ex while he didn't work because I made enough money and "didn't need him".
Guys..... this is NOT about money and there are some of us that don't need financial support. Just be there for us emotionally and physically!!!!! You don't have to take care of the girl all of the time.
2006-06-16 07:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by wyldfyre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men might think that you are looking for deep pockets, but then again, that can be any woman, not just single moms. Up until recently, I had no opinion on the subject and I was very open to dating single moms. But, then I had a relationship with a single mom and my opinion changed. The biggest problem I had was that the father was still sharing custody and was involved in the child's life. That made it very difficult for me. There was always this reminder of my girlfriend's previous relationship. And if that wasn't enough, there were the other inconveniences. Like trying to plan our time around the holidays,etc. This might not seem like much and I'm sure you think that a guy should be able to put up with it - after all you're worth it. But, if a guy has other prospects and they don't include those kind of problems, then he has to ask himself why should he pursue a relationship that he knows will have those kinds of problems from the start. I would still be open to dating a single mom if I knew that the father was out of the picture and had given up all parental rights, but I know that I will otherwise avoid those relationships.
2006-06-16 07:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by g-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me reverse that ,I'm 44 years old been divorced for 10 years,I look decent ,have worked for over 20 years on the same job and take care of my kids ,the minute i tell a women they live with me they run like hell.Ifeel your pain ,ijust wanted to say it does happen to men too.
2006-06-16 07:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by ga44male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're hanging with the wrong men. Take a class at a community college, join a house of worship, there ARE decent people out there that don't have to degrade you to make themselves feel adequate.
2006-06-16 06:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by U. N. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey probably for the same reasons women judge single fathers, I've got three terrific kids, looking for someone for me not a mother for them, but all the women i meet think I'm looking for a replacement mother for them.
2006-06-17 05:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by messedupsingledad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put it out there to see if it scares him off . if he thinks that you want him to support the kids then he wasn't right for you to begin with ...
I think that you are a very special to put your kids first
Good luck and god bless you and yours
2006-06-16 06:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bob D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-16 07:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Justin T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋