I have the looks, but he shines in every other way possible. He is not attractive at all to the rest of society, (born w/ facial disfigurement)but I got to know him, and I'm in love. No, neither of us r rich. My family is unsupportive thinking he's some kind of freak and can only think about what other people will think. I'm thinking of just cutting them off. I'm so disapointed in them.
2006-06-16 06:19:19 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We are so obsessed with looks in our society, that some people are never given a chance.
I would not cut away from my family, families are special, and then what happens if you and your fiance should break up for some reason, then there is no one for you to fall back on, have you tried explaining your feelings to them so that they understand.
As they say, looks are only skin deep, it is what is in the heart and soul that matters, and how someone treats you.
2006-06-16 06:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by brown.gloria@yahoo.com 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're talking about, from the family's point of view. My brother is married to a woman who has a large black mole on her nose, and it's impossible to miss it. Also, she is not physically pretty. When I met her, all I could see was that mole. For a loooong time, I couldn't talk to her without staring at it. It wasn't until they were getting married, and I was in the wedding party, that I was able to get past that mole and find out what a wonderful woman she is.
My advice is this: Your family should learn to get past your b/f's disfigurement, and see what's going on inside of him, like you did. If they can't, then accept that and go on with your relationship. Have a wonderful and long life with him!!
2006-06-16 06:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family that he's normal, THEY have their facial disfigurement. HE loves YOU, despite YOUR facial disfigurements... which runs in the family.
2006-06-16 06:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by doubled254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family is being very shallow when it comes to him.Maybe you should tell your family what you see in him and what he means to you.Perhaps you should make them feel quilty for the way they choose to see him and tell them how disappointed you are in them.If they care anything about you they should accept him for who he is inside if they just can't do that for you then what do you need them for anyway. i'm happy for you!!!! You have a good heart!!!!!
2006-06-16 06:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people in society feel uncomfortable when someone looks different. you should point out to them that just because he looks different, he has a great personality and is a great guy. if they don't listen, stay away from them for awhile.
2006-06-16 06:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your situation. well.....why dont you try getting your family know your fiance better???
why dont you organize events or outings where all of you can go together and spend time with each other ......that way your family will get to know him better and they wont hate him anymore......
well....it shudnt be too difficult to convince your family to spend time with your fiance.......
and in anycase if it still doesnt work.....well....just dont give a damn....its your life.......
you are very special too......women like you are very rare.....usually b!tches go for eye candies......n you aint that sort.....be proud of your choice....i wish you both happiness...n an everlasting love;)
2006-06-16 06:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good idea your parents should only care what makes you happy and not that of what your boyfriend looks like because he makes you happy. Its none of their business who you marry as long as your happy.
2006-06-16 06:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by oo0_krissy_0oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋