I'm just sad, i want to be my husbands real best friend but he cheated and it's questionable how far they actually went but who cares things are just differnt now. I used to feel really special i used to put him on apedastal and brag about him. i really thought he was the most good looking guy out there and i never even thought about other men in a sexual way. Is all that not reality in most marriages? Hkow could he betray me when i loved him sooo much???
2006-06-16 06:09:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats not Truth!!! I have A Aunt and Uncle, and my Uncle is trully in love with my Aunt. Hell do anything for her. They've been married for a long time!
2006-06-16 06:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by inthisskin22x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry for what he did to you and your marriage Claire.
Can you get back what you once had? Possibly but he is going to have to make a real effort along with you. It will take both of you to make this work again. You need to sit down with him and have a very honest and open talk. Possibly a quiet restaurant, something away from where the two of you live.
You need to stay positive about things if you really want this to work again. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him to be honest and open with his feelings too! Yes it may hurt to hear some of the things he will tell you but until you get it all out there, you won't be able to start the healing process.
If BOTH of you can do this, you can again start to regain slowly, very slowly the faith and trust you once had in him
No, not all men are this way, I just celebrated my 11th anniversary with my wife and we are happier today than we were on the day we married!
I wish you luck and will hope that you do get your best friend, lover and husband back.
2006-06-16 07:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's good for you by doing what makes you happy. It's really lousy that he had to do that, but don't bother trying to be his best friend because obviously, he didn't take his wedding vows, you, his future or his friendship to you seriously. Why should you feel this way when you didn't do anything wrong? You have the right to stand up for your happiness and security. Take advantage of what you have, which is kindness and a trustworthy attitude and make better friends. He has no right to control you now, he destroy is part. Go to the park and enjoy the surroundings, go take a walk downtown, buy a new outfit to wear out, get into a kickboxing class, or whatever turns you on, but don't let yourself suffer anymore for his sake. He doesn't care, he doesn't see you as a loving, breathing, unique individual. Go and separate yourself from him, you'll learn to feel confident again and you'll see the other guys looking your way because they'll see your confidence and want to see who you are.
2006-06-16 07:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say how good he looks, but what about his personality? It sounds lacking. Maybe you love him toooo much? Not to put the blame on you, because it is not your fault, but I was told once that the reason my husband checks out other women and likes porn is because there is no intimacy ("in to me I see"). Nothing is expected of them.
Are you more upset that he betrayed you or that he is not the man you made him out to be in your mind?
2006-06-16 06:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation actually i'm in still in it we just broke up things started to get different between us i dont no why that's has to happen b cuz it hurts so bad we'll eventually get over it tho we dont need someone who going to betray us obviously they're not the right one we need to be with like we think they are
2006-06-16 06:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by glamorous 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true man doesn't cheat. If it's different then maybe try counceling. If it were me he would be gone, but mine knows if he goes somewhere else he's out of my life. You sound like you want to make it work, so again, counceling...but I don't know how you can forget that he betrayed you, I could never forget, and I know I could never trust him agian.
2006-06-16 06:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was your problem, you admired and hyped up his ego so much he decided to wander off and be Mr. Macho Man...
He obviously didn't love you as much or put you up on a pedestal. I say move on with your life.
Don't lose faith in marriage, my wife is MY best friend...
2006-06-16 06:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. You loved him so much. You assumed it was so powerful for you that he must surely feel the same way. I once heard it said that women look for all things in one man and men look for one thing in all women.
2006-06-16 06:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant speak for every one but for me i am satisfied with one gf
2006-06-22 21:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋