Is anyone else phobic on getting rejected , specaily by women ?

Question

is so how did you over come it ?

give me a break i grew uplearning english an spanish at the same time

Answer 1

I think it might help if you could change your perspective and try to see it from a woman's point of view.

Obviously, if the person you want to ask out is someone you have strong feelings for... you have have a lot at stake emotionally and that's going to be scary for anyone.

But, in general, having someone take an active interest in you or ask you out is flattering... even if you are already in a relationship (sometimes, especially so!), you aren't in a "dating" place in your life right then, or if the person asking doesn't click for you.

So, don't make it about whether or not YOU get a date. Just make it about giving HER something to smile about, maybe.

Also, please remember that most of us HATE hurting guys with rejection... so if you really want to leave her with a smile, you have to look like it would make you happy if she said yes, but doesn't crush you to the core if she says no.

If it REALLY freaks you out to approach women, I have two suggestions:

1) Get into something where you are around women more... join a book club or a take a class and get in a study group with women... it gives you guaranteed stuff to talk about and is very good practice.

2) Set up minimum attempts each week. Start with just one a week. Whether she says yes or no isn't the point. It's good practice... and after a while you'll feel more comfortable with it - especially if you luck out with a "yes" every now and then. (PS Don't start by asking the women out where you work. It looks really bad when guys do the "rounds". The complement becomes an insult at that point.)

Best of luck!

Answer 2

Hey man- don't listen to all the people who are giving you a hard time about your spelling. They are the ones who need help, if they think that they never make a mistake!

Anyways, yes I am afraid of rejection. In fact, it is the number one fear of everyone. It is a deep rooted psychological fear. We all need acceptance.

I think that one way to overcome fear of rejection is very healthy self-esteem and confidence. Once you realize that you are a good person, and you are worthy of a good woman, then you won't be as bothered when you face rejection.

Trust me, my friend, everyone is rejected in life- even big Hollywood movie stars, rich people, extremely good looking people...everyone has to face it.

It may work for you- it may not- but you could try getting practice at talking with women. After a lot of experience, I think you will be stronger, and you won't care as much if people reject you.

Actually, though, remember this- the woman is not rejecting YOU as a person (she doesn't even know you!)- she is working with very limited information. There is nothing wrong with you- it's just human nature.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Don't get rejected. Hang back, and let the girl come to you. That's been my dating "plan" for 10 years now. And I eventually get asked out by a girl. Takes the pressure off since you know they are interested and make the first move. Try it.

Answer 4

Yes I still am to some degree. You have to just keep asking odds are you will get a yes.

You control the fear or the fear controls you.

As for spelling We all have to remember that to some English is a second language to people from other countries. Please try to be more understanding of this

Answer 5

You must not let them see you nervous. When you see a pretty girl, pretend that she is average and while everyone is giving her attention, ignore her. She'll wonder why you are not giving all of your attention to her and be that much more interested in you.

Or it could backfire all together.

But this always works for me and i'm no Adonis.

Answer 6

Fear of rejection is normal. Most people feel this way. By trying to get through situations. And there is always doing "he who cares the least."

Answer 7

i am confident in me u have to have confidence women like it and u have to have charisma and if u can have that rejection dont hurt it just mean some people r attracted to different people dont mean u bad or ugly so it dont affect me

Answer 8

I Haven't overcome it.Iam so phobic, i can't open me mouth in front of a girls.

Answer 9

I'm phobic on getting rejected by men. ummm...I didn't overcome it.

Answer 10

i used to be until me and the love of my life met. if you are afraid of getting rejected, just ask her out and if she says no that means that you just have to try harder.