Why would a married man have an aids test if he says he is not doing drugs nor had sex outside of marriage?

Question

And dont you have to ask for an aids test specialifically? I mean when you have a blood test at the doctors office, you must ask them for the aids test out right, right?

I should of said, he has not had any blood transfusions, he is healthy as all get out, I caught him a year ago chit chatting with a Russian girl on line, one of those hook ups and then he had got her some sort of visa to come to usa...he was going to put her up in a hotel here for a week, to VISIT USA . He has not had sex with me for six months now. I by chance saw the aids test laying in in off, of course the inquiring mind and the crap with the Russian babe, read it. now...according he did not have the gal come over...I wrote her and said she was welcomed but she would have to deal with me. He went in again, here three months later from the 1st blood test for another. I am at my witts end with him on this. OH I was a vigin when I got married and at this rate will be one when I die. We have been married for a very long time,,,,longer than most of you have been alive. And I have never slept with another person, man or woman or animal for that fact.

Answer 1

2 things. First, how long has he been married? HIV can stay hidden for many years, and he may worry about some pre-marital encounter or drug use. Second, I'm not sure about the doctor's office thing, but I have heard that they are making AIDS tests more routine. But I can see why you are concerned about this. I might worry if it was my husband or someone I know's husband, but it's best to be on the safe side & get checked even if you're not really at risk.

One more alternative: it's possible that he just doesn't know how HIV/AIDS is transferred. Some people still think that having a friend with HIV and hugging them or something like that will cause them to get it.

Answer 2

He could be telling lies but at the same time he might be perfectly truthful. It could be his wife who might be or have the tendency to be dishonest. It works both ways the cheating! It is very seldom that the woman alone would cheat and not the man, but there are definitely some men that would never cheat. They are all tempted yes but not all go through with it. Also if the husband mightt have had a kidney problem or a blood transfusion he could also take the aids test to make sure he is o.k. Nowadays, at almost all doctors, whether you ask for the aids test or not, most of them do it any way. People like us who are clean they never get back to us but those who are positive, they find a way to tell them without disclosing anything. They may call you back and ask you outright to take the aids test because of some reason or other or take another test that involves drawing blood and they put it nicely that it wouldn't kill to take the aids test at the same time. They done have you positive already, so when they call you just a week after to tell you that you have aids, they already knew. Anyway, they are able to help you if you accept their help and anyway it is better that you know so that you don't affect other people.

Answer 3

Maybe he's had a blood transfusion in the past. Or it's possible he wants to make sure any sexual activity he engaged in prior ot marriage isn't coming back to haunt him. There's a million reasons why people ask for screening.

Actually, being tested for the HIV virus is not a bad idea for pretty much anyone, even though there are obviously groups that carry a higher risk. I wouldn't fault him for wanting to make 100% sure that he (and you) are ultimately safe from any possible risk of infection.

Some physicians anymore recommend a full screening for all sorts of STDs, including HIV. The last several generations have been more promiscuoius than in the past and HIV can remain hidden or dormaint for several years.

Answer 4

Some people have a fear of infections (microphobia). They feel they are endangered by the invisible army of microbes around us. The HIV virus which causes AIDS is a very fragile virus and cannot survive outside the body but if a person has not studied biology then he may not understand this. Some people believe that they can catch a disease from inanimate objects and indeed some inanimate objects can transmit some infections (fomites) but the HIV virus is not transmissible by fomites. Therefore, your husband may believe that he caught HIV because a co-worker was infected or something along that line. It is not possible to catch the HIV virus from shaking hands, hugging or otherwise touching an infected individual. It is only transmitted through body fluids. The only unusual cases of HIV transmission were from an infected dentist to his patients.

Answer 5

Depends. He may have come in contact with someone who is contaminated and is worried. His job may require it if he's in the medical or another field where he will be in close contact with others.
Certain blood test that doctors will order can be for a plethora of conditions. If this man is having blood drawn for a specific health reason they may do an AIDS test just to make sure that they can treat him for the condition he does have without harming him more due to a medical reaction with AIDS immuno-defficency.

Answer 6

Obviously the only answer to this is of course he has been sleeping around, why would anyone worry if they only have been sleeping with one partner. But for benefit of doubt maybe he found out that someone he had slept with long before you has aids. You never know. I honestly would seperate and test myself because I'd say about 90% chance he's sleeping around 10% chance he found out an old sexual partner has aids. But you'll believe what you want to believe so Good Luck!

Answer 7

My mom lost half her blood when I was born (late late 70's) and she still gets ocassional tests for HIV, hepatitis, and stuff like that because they weren't screening donated blood for those things back then. Grandpa had a transfusion in '82 and ended up with one of those less common, less severe blood born things, but they've both always been faithful. Infidelity isn't the only way to get blood born illnesses.

Answer 8

I think that doctors will screen for HIV when they see a reason to do so. Is his job one that may cause him to be exposed to the virus, i.e. law enforcement, or medicine?

Different doctors do have different procedures though, and maybe his has made it more common to screen everyone.

The real question you have to ask yourself is, "Has my husband done anything to make me doubt his fidelity? Other than this test is there any reason I should be worried?"

Did he tell you about the test or did you discover it? Why would he tell you about it if it was something sinister?

Don't just look at one tree, try to examine the entire forest.

Answer 9

Blood transfusions in the past, surgeries, being around someone that has it and being nervous about it, etc.. There are many reasons to ask to have one and I do not know if you have to ask for the test. I imagine they would want to know if a person was HIV and screen for it whenever they took blood. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet.

Answer 10

Yes you do have to ask for it and it is kept private. He could be concerned about something he did or circumstances he was in PRIOR to the marriage. You have to remember, AIDS has been around a long time now. Could he also be worried about his spouse giving him something for any reason? You didn't specify why you were asking but that is a possibility too.