I am 18 getting ready to go to USC in the fall!! I have a WONDERFUL bf whom I love VERY much! he proposed last night and I said yes!! his parents and my parents have been trying to break us up since they found out we were dating about 3 yrs ago! we told our parents we wanted to get married and they totally lost it!! what should I do! I don't wannt lose my family and I definitly don't wanna lose my bf!! can yall help me plz?!
2006-06-16 05:48:27 · 11 answers · asked by NC_baby_gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is NOTHING wrong with my bf he doesn't need to change at all!
2006-06-16 05:55:53 · update #1
ok some more details would be that we are not planing on getting married ASAP he wants me to fnish school and do whatever else I wanna do! also yes he does have a job and he is also going to school but a local one so he can still remain working!
2006-06-16 06:00:54 · update #2
Your parents will never disown you, I promise. I was 20 years old, got pregnant by my boyfriend whom I had been with for 7 years, my father called me every name in the book for it, stopped talking to me until he realized I wasn't his little girl anymore, and now he loves my daughter more then ever. Parents want what they think is best for their child but you need to realize it is your life not theirs, if you live your life pleasing everyone else then you won't live a happy life that's your choice you may not even be happy, I learned that too. You can't live life happy unless you are doing what makes you happy not your parents. I am married to my husband for 3 years and together for 10 with two beautiful children and my parents couldn't be happier for me.
2006-06-16 09:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 18, a tricky age as you are an adult, but you still have so much to learn and you will do plenty of growing and maturing in your 20's. If you do love your boyfriend, what's wrong with having a long engagement? You should focus on your studies and meeting all kinds of new people (friends and networking, which will help you in your career once you're out of college). To settle down at this point, I hate to say it, but the odds are against you. So, I advise you take your time. Get your education and be open-minded to new experiences. That's what college is all about. If you both grow along the same path, you'll be happy you waited to make sure. If not, you could wind up very young and divorced so take your time. You don't say why your sets of parents do not want you to be involved with each other, so I can't give you advice on how to handle them. USC is a good school. Good luck to you!
2006-06-16 12:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18, it lasted only 4 years. Now I am in my second marriage, happy but now finally going to college with 3 kids. So my advice to you is to go to school, graduate, then plan the wedding. There is nothing wrong with a long engagement. Time will tell you if it will work out. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2006-06-16 13:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Fluffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood why parents usually always want to break up their children's relationships, unless there is a very good reason. That being said, my advice would be to both of you to go ahead and get your educations BEFORE you get married. That way, you will stay together longer, since you love each other so much. Long distance relationships can work, if you stay true to each other while you're away. It worked for me and my husband.
2006-06-16 12:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is hard enough on your own. Go to college, experience life and if you guys still want to get married after college, then do that. It is better. You still have a lot of growing up to do and life to experience. You change a lot between 18 and 25...believe me, I've been there.
2006-06-16 13:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with a long engagement. Like until you finish your education. Talk to your parents and ask their fears. Is he also going to school! Does he work? Would he make a good husband? Is it really love? Long engagements tend to answer these questions. Good luck!
2006-06-16 12:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a nice guy i dont no why your family doesnt like him but i wouldnt break up wit him cuz theres not too many boys out working and trying to go to school maybe u should try to convice them and tell them how good he is compared to the low life boys out here.
2006-06-16 13:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by glamorous 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. They only want the best for you. Go to colllege, graduate, get a job, have some fun, then think about marriage. You are wayyyyyyyyy too young for marriage now!
2006-06-16 12:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to college and set the wedding for when you graduate from college. If it works out until then I guess it was meant to be.
2006-06-16 12:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your parents don't accept you for who you are tell them to stay out of it and let you live your life.Also tell your boyfriend to change.
2006-06-16 12:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by hoodqueen118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋