Does RACE (i.e. color) play a part in relationships?

Question

When it comes to relationships, why is it that most people tend to shy away of being involved with (i.e. sexually, emotionally, etc.) people of the opposite race? I am a Black man and I date women who are not black and I get looked at funny so I am trying to figure out if it has something to do with "HIS"tory or the ignorance of people in general. After all when the architects of this great country wrote the magnificent words to the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence, they wrote a promissory note to which every American was to fall heir. This note was a promise "We hold these truth to be self evident that ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL". Feel free to express yourself and for further discussion feel freee to e-mail me @ [e-mail].

Answer 1

OTHER PEOPLES OPINION SHOULD NEVER AFFECT YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS. IF THEY DO THEN YOU ARE JUST AS BAD AS THE PEOPLE WHO JUDGE YOU.

HONESTLY MIXED CHILDREN AND ADULTS ARE SOME OF THE BEST LOOKING PEOPLE I KNOW, I WISH HAD THAT BEAUTIFUL COCOA COLORED SKIN AND AMAZING EYES LIKE I SEE ON A LOT OF MIXED PEOPLE. HOPEFULLY ONE DAY WE'LL ALL BE MIXED AND PREJUDICE WILL BE A THING OF THE PAST.

Answer 2

I am white. Never dated outside my race. BUT...there is a guy I have been chatting with who is black, and he is awesome, and I'd LOVE to at least go out on a date with him and see where it would go. I think because of all the hatred towards people of color, everyone is paranoid of what will happen if they date outside their own race. It's a problem that has occured for so long, that no one knows how to fix it, and it's likely to never go away.

For Brandy, down there below a couple of answers.... How can you not give people of a different skin color a chance? HOW?? Everyone is made of the same stuff on the inside, and it's all the same color. Skin color is a pigment, it's not what you ARE. There is a disease that causes people to lose that pigmentation in their skin...so if you had that disease, and you started to lose your black "coloring," would we have to call you white? No. Because your skin color DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE. I also think it's funny that you would call the question asker a "sell out" when one of your previous questions says we should all love one another. Kinda two-faced, wouldnt you say?

Answer 3

Just remember that most people really do care what other people think, no matter how much they deny it even if they feel a strong attraction to another person of another race. Basically it does boil down to ignorance and intolerance. Don't let any of that stop you, live your life the way that makes you happy. I am in an interracial relationship and have been for 8 years. The man I consider my "Dad" is another race, I have an interracial brother and Son. My family is always getting looked at funny. Its is their problem not ours.

Answer 4

I think it's sad that people still think like this. I think that people are products of thier enviroments. A lot of the values people have are passed down from thier parents. It takes good parenting and a strong sense of self for someone to be able to break free of the social stigmas associated with race.
I am white, and my wife is not, so I can relate. My wife is Korean. We met when I was stationed in Korea. When there I definately saw people staring at us, definately more than they do in the US. But I don't let it bother me. As long as my wife and I don't care about us being different races, then to hell with anyone else.

Answer 5

Truthfully I beleive that not only does it have to do with history, but also that ignorance that you need to be 'true to your race" in order to maintain your race. I have been married to a black man(im white) for 7 years today. We tend to get lots of stares and ocne in awhile there will be that black woman filling the need to remind him that he is a "sell out" or that he can't handle a black woman! There are also those misconceptions of only being with me for money, status, or that I'm catering to him. Which are all ridiculous, most that know me state that i'm more difficult than most black woman and definitely not easy! Unforunately you have those that think they have to stay with their own kind because white woman dont understand the struggles of being black. My whole thing is that was how long ago? and how are we to get over it if they wont let it go

Answer 6

I think it does although it really shouldn't. People are people after all. I have never dated a black person myself but I think each person should be able to be with whomever they want to be with and no one should look down on them. Unfortunately, today's society does not see it that way. A lot of people seem to be caught up in the past. It goes both ways though. Some black people are as judgemental as white people.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, it does. I have raised my children to be color blind, but their peers always have something to say about it. Everybody is to busy sticking their nose into other peoples business. My daughter got beat up because she had a black boyfriend. The girls in her class wanted to "teach her to stay away from their men." I really wish it didn't have to be that way. So many people are missing out on great relationships because of it.

Answer 8

You get looked at funny because you are a *ucking sell out. You are apparently ashamed of being black and you think you date women who are not black (I bet they are all white) that will somehow hide the fact that you are black. You can only go through life if you fool yourself to thinking you've "arrived" and are better than the average black person.

Your mom is black, your sisters are black your granny is black YOU are black. There is nothing wrong with black women. Nothing further to discuss. You make me sick.

Answer 9

It is sad that when people date outside of their race that they get looked at differently. I am hispanic and am dating a black man and I can tell you that we do get looked at differently, but it doesn't bother me one bit because I love him no matter what! And I know that he gets dirty looks from hispanic males. But to me we are all created equal!

Answer 10

Each and every human being is made by God .............the color never matters ........... the main thing is u shud be a good human being...................after all ur color will be burried 3-4 feet underground