I have been married for almost 11 yrs and I love my husband dearly, but I think I am in love with another man but I am not sure what to do. I never thought it was possible to be IN LOVE with more then one man.
2006-06-16 05:45:06 · 7 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know most people will tell you no, but I think it is possible to care deeply for more than one person, and isn't caring deeply about someone what love is about? However, the problem here is that if you truly love both people, you will have to come to accept the cold truth: you will have to hurt one or both. If you love them both, then this will be a difficult decision. If you don't choose, though, you will hurt both people by default. I would think that you would want to save the love of one person, instead of losing both, so you had better come to a decision before it's too late. My recommendation would be to save the 11 year relationship. At least you know that love has staying power, but what about this new one - will it only be thrilling when it's new?
2006-06-16 05:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kestra SpiritNova 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, my advice is to get away from the other man, if you don't want something stupid to happen to your husband that you're so "in love" with and your family. 11 years is a loooong time to be married to someone, plus the time that you dated and were engaged; how long you've known each other etc. If it were me, I would stay true to my husband because I'm not a cheater, and I wouldn't let the situation rise that I would have a chance to honestly be in love with someone else. Considering you've already let that happen, it's up to you to change something. I think everyone chooses who they love. If you never met your husband you wouldn't love him, you would love someone else, but you chose to be with him. You also chose the places you go, the people you talk to, and how much time you allow yourself to get to know people.
That is terrible, and I hope you make the right decision.
2006-06-16 05:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by answergurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your definition of love and level or morals, but I would say you could love multiple men. Your husband, and your father...
I'll reverse this and say that I love my wife who is the mother of my two children, with all my heart. I have very close friends both male and female who I speak with often and some of them are actually physically very attractive. Could I fall in love with any of them? No, because at the end of the day when I see my wife, I'm in love again and I haven't fallen out yet, and don't foresee it.
2006-06-16 06:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats not possible to love two mens at a same time................u r just attracted toword the other men i think that is b'coz from past some years u r following the same boring life style............remember those days when u r newly married.instead of attracting to other men try and remember the beautiful time which u spend with ur hubby.
2006-06-16 05:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by ekanki g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do, it is possible but keep in mind if you hurt your husband, it is not very loving either. you need to figure what is more important. good luck
2006-06-16 05:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, you better pick and chose or your going to get in trouble.
2006-06-16 05:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby I do every week... Its alot of fun...
2006-06-16 06:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by butch2107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋