So, my husband and I seperated in late April. Just wasn't working for us. He's already back dating, but I don't want to jump back in to fast, in case it affects our divorce. So when should I consider going back to dating?
2006-06-16 05:43:13 · 11 answers · asked by bannasmom1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you think it will affect the divorce, wait until all of the papers are signed. You can expedite the process by filing for divorce via adultery. It's still considered adultery if you are married and separated. However, if you start dating before the divorce is final, then you will not be able to file for divorce on those grounds. Do not get back together with him at any point in time after the adultery either. In both cases, it would represent your endorsement (or lack of condemnation) of it, which the courts would reject a divorce on those grounds then.
2006-06-16 06:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kestra SpiritNova 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After the divorce is final for sure. Go a little slower this time ( if you are under 50). Don't shack when you start back, that will insure you the bottom of the barrel to chose from. People are not always what they seem. Some guys know just how to romance the ladies and get what they want-then dump then for younger chicks later. Be careful this time-there are some real good men out there who may not show interest at first-cut them some slack, they have just got out of hell. It takes them a little time too, they can have feelings.
2006-06-16 05:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time. Are the two of you legally separated? If yes, then you can start dating and it shouldn't affect any of your divorce proceedings. If the separation is not legal yet, then it can still be considered adultery.
Besides that though, just wait until you feel you are ready. Some people, like your husband, go right back into the dating game. Others take years to feel they are ready. (I wouldn't recommend waiting that long though) I would say take some time for yourself first. Get to know who you are again. Then slowly get yourself back out there. Good luck.
2006-06-16 05:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if you and you hubby are only seperated and he's dating, it's called cheating. so go get that divorce asap and you can use him dating while you're only seperated as grounds for cheating is cheating, i mean you're only seperated, not divorced yet. it's called alienation of affection, wait until the divorce is final and give it at least 6 months in order for your heart to heal before you even think about dating again much less doing it.
2006-06-16 05:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by cantgetintoss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've already been over a year and would really rather buy a new guitar, get a puppy, and spend all my free time with my daughter. I have no desire to get back into a relationship.
2006-06-16 06:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can help get you back into the game !!! Personally, it took me over a year before I wanted to get back into it. It just depends on the person.
2006-06-16 05:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the ink is dry on the divorce papers(about 2 seconds after they are signed)
2006-06-16 06:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it a good year to get readjusted to single life and really move on. You need time to get over him.
2006-06-16 06:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the one that needs to decide when it is time. But dont wait too long
2006-06-16 07:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yesterday
2006-06-16 05:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Big Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋