I really don't want to scare or make her feel down. Is it necessary for me to tell her, or should I keep it a secret?
2006-06-16 05:30:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take her to a nice dinner at Pizza Hut and tell her the bad news.
2006-06-16 08:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by josh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I can't believe you're trusting millions of strangers to give you advice on such a serious subject. To answer your first question you just tell her, theres no easy way to do it. To answer your second question no don't keep it from her for lots of reasons. What if something happened to you (God forbid) and you had to be rushed to the hospital? She would have no clue. But mainly because shes your wife and she has the right to know everything about you. If she a good wife she'll stick with you no matter what.
2006-06-16 12:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep it a secret. She has a right to know, she's your wife and cares about your health. You just need to sit her down and explain the situation calmly and slowly. It may be a surprise to her so be ready to console her. You need her to know because you have a long road ahead of you and you need her to support you. Hope everything goes well. Best of luck!
2006-06-16 12:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by AngelLuv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't keep it a secret!! then she'll really be upset. you need to sit her down and tell her. besides you need all the support you can get! if she meant what she said in the vows, "for better or worse", then she will understand. don't worry about her feeling down, that's sweet, but you don't need any more stress right now! sorry for your situation. lean on her shoulder, don't be to prideful to do that.
2006-06-16 12:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sit down ...and say honey i have to tell you something ...its serious...let her know how much you love her and that you have been diagnosed with cancer..tell her the stage that its in...she will be scared...may cry ..saying things like she cant believe this is happening ..but dont worry..if you in a loving relationship...this is the shock that hits us...and then our strength comes thru and we are there for the long haul...good luck to you and hope that its caught in a stage that you can overcome....hugz
2006-06-16 12:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her calmly about it. Be cheerful and hopeful and keep your spirits up. There is alot of hope for help here and maybe even completely recovered and cancer free again someday! You and your family will be in our prayers. I hope that God will touch you in a special way today!
2006-06-16 15:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not keep it a secret. You must absolutely tell her - openly, honestly, gently. Don't go through it alone. She is your WIFE!
2006-06-16 12:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by CanadianGirlAbroad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything you can do to make it easier on her, but you definitely need to tell her.
2006-06-16 12:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE TO TELL HER HONESTY IS ALWAYS BEST JUST SIT HER DOWN AND TELL HER SHE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU AND YOU ARE GOING TO NEED HER
2006-06-16 13:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie_clyde_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her. You both can deal with it together.
2006-06-16 12:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by scorpio11120 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋