Everytime we go to my boyfriend's bestfriend house, his wife flirts with my boyfriend but in a very sutile way not too obvious but noticebale, to a point that I spoke about it with my boyfriend and he told me that he also had noticed it. We agreed that everytime we went by just to ingore her, but it's been going on for almost a year.. and I am tired of it. My boyfriend and I have had big fights about it, he says it's not his fault and he feels in the middle becuase of his best friend and at the same time he doesn' t want for me to be feeling uncomfortable...So, he decided to talk to his bestfriend about is wife... I don't think it's the best option. I am desperate and tired of it ... WHAT SHALL I DO?
2006-06-16 05:10:47 · 31 answers · asked by butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could always smash her in the face an tell her to leave him alone
2006-06-16 05:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making a big deal out of this! If your boyfriend talks to his friend about his wife's flirting I can almost guarantee you this will create a rift that they won't get over. So, if that's what you want (it would solve the problem) go ahead! But, my advice is to ignore it. As long as your boyfriend is not returning her little innuendos, you don't have a thing to worry about. As long as your bf isn't alone with her, I don't think she would try anything more than the subtle moves....maybe she isn't even aware of her over "friendliness". Some women (and men) are just born flirts. They can't help it.
2006-06-16 05:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by themainsail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stop going over to their home. I have a best friend who does inappropiate things in my home and hers in front of her and my children. I just limit and cut contact wtih her. That way I control the situation.
Also, you should try telling your b/f to confront her directly. If he can't or won't ask him to tell HIS bestfriend about the girlfriends behavior he then can confront the girlfriend (this might get her attention then).
On the other hand, all men like attention and if your boyfriend is playing into it or denying that there is even a problem you need to question is there something else going on. All men love attention and if he is not getting it at home he might end up trying it out somewhere else. If you think this is the case he is not worth your time.
2006-06-16 05:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable with it, tell him. Maybe he just needst he input of a woman to understand what to do... let him know that when he does talk to her, to let you know. If you see that he does this very often or way too much, there's more than just talking going on...
It's just advice, I'm not sure your entire situation and how long you two have been together, but another woman in general is usually a bad sign.
2006-06-16 05:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he can try talking to his friend about the wife. He has to know. You can also try talking to the wife itself. Let her know that your bf belongs to you and you alone. Make her wake up and know that she's already married. She's a married person so behave like one and not bother about other people's relationship trying to spoil them.
From what you explained, it doesn't seem like it was your bf's fault. He wasn't the one flirting, it was her so don't blame him and have fights over that issue. He's not at fault and neither are you. The only person at fault is that wife of his friend. She has to realize what she's doing is wrong.
Both of you should help her realize that. Don't fight or you'll make things look uglier in your relationship.
2006-06-16 05:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by IdOlIsTiC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, what an annoying girl! That is so rude! Does his best friend not notice it at all? Why don't you confont the wife? Nip it in the bud. I would do that before having him talk to his friend. That will only cause weirdness between him and his friend. Also, it sounds like he is a good guy, so I wouldn't get mad and fight with him about the flirting. The wife would probably be happy if she knew she was causing drama between you two. If you fight with him about it, you're letting her win.
2006-06-16 05:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people always beat around the bush about problems. Confront it head on. I'm sure you speak to her privately after a year, tell her it bothers you. If she brushes it off, perhaps you need to let your boyfriend know that you will be flirting with his best friend to let her know how it feels....then again, maybe they want to be swingers, in which case, you've added fuel to the fire. LOL
Good luck.
2006-06-16 05:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best that he talk to his friend about it, you have have to hope that he doesn't get mad (the best friend). That is unaproprate for his wife to be acting that way. Or maybe you guys can try and not hang out with them for a little while and his friend will get the hint that something is wrong and your bf can go into the conversation like that. Good luck
2006-06-16 05:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore her. Unify against her. In your own subltle ways you and your guy should be able to ridicule her behavior enough to make her understand that you both think that what she is doing is silly. Try giving each other knowing looks the next time it happens. She will see this and realize that you both probably make fun of her when she is not around and she will stop. Thanking her for approving of your choice in men can also work wonders for putting you that one step above her that you need to be to feel secure about the whole thing. Just make sure that your guy is strong.
2006-06-16 05:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jesad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a 3-some
2006-06-16 05:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by river_runs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is crazy!!! you boyfriend really have no choice in telling his bestfriend ( I know i would want to know if my man was flirting with my friend but some people are different) but it is tricky; his friend will have to believe either his wife or friend. hopefully, he won't turn on his best friend when he breaks the news.everyone know there mate so he should know what she is capable of. you should go with your boyfriend meet his friend face to face and both of you tell him; that way he would know you saw his wife too or women to women approach her. you can do it that way or both of you go talk to best friend.
you good for a year , I would have ran up on her a$$ in th kitchen (lol) and gave her a warning.
good luck
2006-06-16 05:45:20 · answer #11 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋