I have been happily engaged over a year about and I was wondering what is a good time to seriously talk about getting married. We have decided to wait a coulpe of years to see if we feel as much in love now as we will later in a few years time.
2006-06-16 05:00:15 · 14 answers · asked by Christina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The engagement period is supposed to be the stage where a couple is actively planning for the wedding. If you're not "seriously taking about getting married", what is the point of being "engaged"? Sounds like your partner has effectively put you on "layaway", holding you in reserve until they *really* decide they want to marry you.
The next time you get together, bring the subject up. Find the venue, choose the officiant and SET THAT DATE. If your partner is unwilling to do so, it means they're not serious and I'd suggest "dis-engaging" until they become more serious about the commitment implied when you agreed to be "engaged".
2006-06-16 05:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know when is a good time but i hope you don't wait as long as i have waited'lol'! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years now and engaged for almost 8 and i am still waiting for the wedding!LOL! We had out wedding planned once about 4 years ago but i called it off because i heard some nasty things which to this day i still don't know is true or not but that's in the past! I keeps asking him when we are going to get married he says don't worry about it ,it will happen! I don't know if it will or not though but i am just as happy living common-law to tell you the truth although i know it is not morally right! I think a couple of years would be long enough for normal people to wait,you should know by then if you are truly in love or not! Good luck and hope you don't have to wait 10 yrs'lol'!!!!!!
2006-06-16 05:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Baybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well isnt the whole point of getting engaged promising your attention to get married? Shouldnt those things have been discussed before you got engaged? I think that perhaps you have made a commitment without knowing that this is the right person for you. I mean, I havent been married before, but I am dating a fabulous person. I think that i wouldnt say yes to his proposal if and unless he was asking because he knew me as his wife, not to keep me around for awhile while he decides that.
2006-06-16 05:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by kitchenergal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre on the right track. Id say 2 years of an engagement is great
2006-06-16 05:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have decided to get married.. then why wait.. understanding of each other will be natural when u really marry and face day to day life with each other.. just postponement.. chatting, telephone conversations, mails and other stuffs will make life boaring at certain point will lead to frastrations... so once u have decided.. GET MARRIED and face life together what may come !! dont test the patience of love.. it will be strong for a second to life long.. its the individuals decessions that matter to nurish and grow the love tree and reap the fruit of marriage for the betterment of strong roots called life !!
2006-06-16 05:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by ashokbaskaran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the point if you got engaged if you're not even sure if you'llget married? I think that separates engagement to bf-gf relationship. You get engage because you are giving the person you love the promise that you will not marry other person aside from her/him.
2006-06-16 05:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by athame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months to a year
2006-06-16 05:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... i dont get it, so why did he engage to you in the first place if he's not sure and he's just putting it off. didn't he ask you to marry him already and now he's not even metioning it? he's probably having second thoughts. talk to him soon and find out so you don't waste your time. dont let him put it off and make excuses.
2006-06-16 05:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aren't that much in love, then don't get married anytime soon. you need to be seriously in love and want to spend the rest of your life together. get premarital counseling first, that always helps!!!
2006-06-16 05:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good answer only the two of you will know when the moment is right....the more you know each other the more you will grow...you have to be friends before you can be lovers....i'm sure you have heard that before....friends are forever....you have lots of time ahead of you all.....
2006-06-16 05:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋