i feel hopeless?

Question

i love my husband but, he has hurt me in many ways (not physical) i cant feel the same love how can recreate the strong feelings for him

Answer 1

I felt the same way... and I'm sorry to tell you it never did get back to the way it was... after I came to the realization that you have, I tried to stick it out another two years. In the end, I had to leave. People can grow and develop, but they can never really change their core.
Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Well, that's the good thing....nobody is perfect and your husband or you are not exception to that....I am sure, you can win a person by loving him in all the way....if you love him and if you feel he is hurting you, you should talk to him and make him understand that these things are hurting you....if you love him, and if he understands that, he would definately try to work out...so give him some time....if this doesnt work then just stop complaining and ignore the act which hurts you a lot...best luck!!!

Answer 3

Well if your feeling hopeless then you've sunk as far a you can go. The only way to go now is up how you conduct yourself in the next couple of days is important. Ask yourself these questions. Is it worth saving and can you ever forgive what he has done to you figure those two out and you should be fine. Good luck

Answer 4

First, has he acknowledged that he hurt you? You cannot begin to repair your marriage until both people know it is torn.
Have you told him exactly HOW he hurt you? Will he talk about it? Have you tried to get him to go to counseling with you?
If he won't talk about it, won't accept that you are hurt, why would WANT to recreate feelings for him?
You need to decide if it is worth the effort with this man, if he wants to be happy with you.

Answer 5

smetimes, when things get messy, its not rlly wise to sit n pick out n compare mistakes ...tht usually makes the whole atmosphere really hostile...i suggest u shud just pretend as if nothing has changed, n try to fix things lil by lil...for instance, if the both of u use to eat all ur meals together, n recently if tht has stopped or become less exciting or watever, then try to brighten up ur meal times by cooking smefin exotic, or by asking ur husband to help u cook smefin! frm wat iave noticed, men dont always give much of a damn bout lil cute things, n even if they do, they surely do not show it! nehow, jus try n make reasons to spend time together..!im sure if u rlly invest sme well thot out attention on ur relationship, u cud spark up the same strong feelings u once had between one another! well hopefully! i mean if its not meanta b, then all u can do is let go... but dont give up b4 tryin ur hardest!

Answer 6

Seek help and counseling with him. Ask him to help you rebuild things and take your time. Date him once in a while and do things together that are fun. You also will have to learn to forgive him some day and get past the pain that this has caused you. Get to know him all over again and spend time with him.

Answer 7

the only solution is communication with him expressing your hurt and hopefully stopping this pattern he may have.
You must have a sincere way of expressing your hurt and not having a resent-full attitude which may lead to unresolved agreements

Answer 8

If u are 100% true in ur love, u can really get that same 100% from him soon, dont get upset just love him as u are, sure he knows ur love one day. good luck.

Answer 9

seriously not just saying this......go to counseling it helps you communicate about so many things. things wont work unless god is the foundation is your marriage. it takes alot of prayer, patience, forgiveness, and selflessness to keep going and make it stronger. maybe start going to church, even with out him. go for yourself. its a great place to find healing

Answer 10

The above answerer is my wife. She is wise.
So..she's the Wise Wife.