what do you do when your losing your best and only friend?

Question

well how do i start? this girl and i have known eachother for years umm we were good friends in grade school. in junoir high we became even better friends. no wits our last year at our junoir high and we are sleeping away becaese she wanted to do crew.(i thought it was great. but i didnt even think that she would not have time to chill with me anymore.) but now is kinda the summer and i want to chill with her, i love her (nohomo) but in a sisterly way. she was always here when i needed her,whenever i needed her. we told eachother our secerts. when i say best friends i mean where i was you would see her and viversa. i dont know what to do. she has lots of friend s but i dont. yeah i have friends but no friends i can call up and cry my eyes out with. i need HELP! and when i call her cell phone she never picks up or she wll pick up and say that she cant talk but that shell call me back later and never does. SO i dont know what to do can anyone help me out? need more info email me thanks

and i have a boyfriend we ahve been together for about 9months i love him with all my heart and i need the girl to bring me to his concert to night at our high school. hes in a band.

Answer 1

i try to make more friends

Answer 2

Are you sure she considers you her best friend? If she is not picking up the phone and/or giving you the time of day.. I am not so sure. I see and talk to my best friend every day... and she left for France today for a month. If she was my only friend.. I would be so lost. So, that's why I have a healthy balance of friends. You need the same. Don't ever rely on any one person that much. Go out and meet some new people. You'll feel much better if you do. Get involved in some activities if you are shy- that will help you to meet people.

Answer 3

Well the best thing I can tell you is to remember the good times. Evidently she has new friends and no longer needs or wants you as a friend. If she is a true friend she would be there for you! I am 50 years old and I can count the TRUE friends I have in less then 2 hands. The friends that I have ,have been there for me through everything. It's time for you to move on,although you might miss her you'll see one day she was not really your friend.
Relationships come and Go
But TRUE FRIENDSHIPS last FOREVER!
A good friend of mine told me this about 20 years ago,we are still friends now. I don't see her much but she is there for me.
Good Luck and Take Care.

Answer 4

This was a lot to take in but ok here it goes......TALK! simply that, if she was any kind of a true friend to you, talk to her and let her know how you feel. if she is a true friend, then she will explain herslef to you, take what you say to her into consideration and be there like a real friend would. However, if she kind of like blows you off and act liek what you are saying dosnt matter, she wasnt your friend to begin with...... You have to remember that sometimes, you outfrow your friends. You said since grade school you guys were close, you may just have outgrown each other and come into a stage in your life where you realize you never really had much in common. When you become an adult, you get adult friends. ......it' nothing like having a best friend, but make sure, they indeed are your friend first. Good Luck and God Bless!!!!!!

Answer 5

I have never been blown off or lost contact with my best friend in over 8 years of serving with the navy. I think that maybe she doesn't feel as close to you as you do to her. In your lifetime you will be lucky to find 1 or 2 true real friends. I think that you may have overestimated your friendship in this case. Just find a new group to hang around with, be open and be yourself. Sometimes you'll find someone you can count on where you'd least expect it. You are still young so relax and enjoy life, she'll realize what she's lost and she'll come to you if the friendship was true.

Answer 6

That's the way you feel about it. What about her? Maybe she doesn't feel the same. Maybe she has outgrown you. Or maybe this is all just temporary--who knows?

But if in case you really are losing your best friend, you definitely need CLOSURE. It's a fact of life that nothing is permanent in this world. Set up a meeting with her; ask her about your problem and confirm your suspicions.

If you're correct, then tell her all that you need to tell her (and add that you might explode if you didn't), then tell her that it's been a wonderful friendship, albeit sad that it has to end. With the "official" ending of your friendship, you got rid of the confusion in your mind, and you are now ready to move on. Peace.

Answer 7

awww, growing up is hard to do. no one in their right mind would want to be your age again.

you guys had a very nice friendship and it looks like she is branching out a bit. just back off a little. you can't do anything to make her do what she doesn't want to do. get involved in different activities-drama, band, art, something that will get you involved in a group where you can acomplish something. in a couple of weeks give her a call and tell her you and some friends are going to a movie and would she like to come and bring some of her friends.

you guys might not be best friends for life, but try to keep a light connection every so ofted and when you are older you will really aprciate eachother.

Answer 8

Oh my god, It’s not like she died or what. She‘s still around give her a bit of space. If a good friend will always be there even when the both or you are grey and dried. Just find time to keep in touch. That all you need some times if you are to close with your best friends you end up hating them the rest or your life

Answer 9

I am so sorry about your friend. That happens in life. Maybe later she will get closer again. In the meantime you need to make new friends and realize that we can never put our trust in one person. I have had many people desert me including 3 husbands and many girlfriends and my parents and siblings. What I found is: When it comes to crying my heart out, I go to God. He is always there, He always listens and never asks me to call him back. He answers prayers. I am 54 and He is still there for me. I feel His arms around me when I cry and He comforts me with a strength that I know no one on this earth can compare to. I will talk to Him about you. All you have to do is speak to Him and he will hear you and he won't tell you to call later.

Answer 10

i can understand how important she is in your life but of course you wouldn't imagine that it will end that way of just cutting you off or ignore you in some ways by not taking time talking to you on the phone or not calling you back. perhaps life is changing and one's priority is changing too. you shared good moments that are very valuable, laughs, tears, worries, fears, frustrations, angers, etc. but you also have to move on yet she is still your best friend no matter what. you will meet the same situation but never give up, enjoy the present moment and live the here and now. cheer up and your friends will multiply as years gone by.

Answer 11

first of all its sad that you only have one true friend. obviously, this situation has taught you that we all need to depend on other people at some point in time in our lives. My suggestion, don't limit yourself to one "best friend". Go out and make friends, have fun, share secrets, help each other and if you treat everyone like a friend you will find that you will never be without one.