its driving me banana's, I'm always initiating and I still don't get the amount I'd like. It has come to a point that I don't bother as much as I used to. We love each other and get on really well in all other areas. But this is the only thing we fight about. Is there something I can do? Anyone with any serious help or suggestions for me?
2006-06-16 04:20:04 · 23 answers · asked by zara c 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it's a physical thing then testosterone patches would help, but he'd have to be at least acknowledging that there's a problem and willing to see his doctor.
More likely it's a psychological mis-match - does he have anything going on in his life that he may be pre-occupied with? Stress at work? Money problems? Kids?
Been there myself (in your position, I mean). The only real way forward is to talk and explain how it's making you feel, and to explain that just because he doesn't have "an itch" it doesn't mean he can't scratch yours a bit more often...and if you draw a blank - move on, 'cos if he's not prepared or able to make you happy and satisfied you'll end up dumping him sooner or later anyway...
There must be a zillion guys out there who'd *love* a girlfriend with a high sex-drive!!
2006-06-16 05:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Nefeco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
M wifes sex drive is the same as your guys. but i found that there aint no way to change it!! We've been married for 19 years and it has caused so many bedroom fights. The problem made me feel as though I was dirty or she was frigid. My masculinity at one point was all but dissolved and, my heart felt as though it had been torn apart. My self confidence went and I seriously questioned my own self respect. She would say "well you know i dont like sex", then, when we did make love i felt like ****. she would always be there at the right time with some sort of excuse, not just about sex but any physical contact and i spent (wasted) years dutifully trying to find a resoloution. Now after 19 yrs our relationship is on a knife edge it's about to blow big time, all the years of resentment and frustration have taken their toll. Oh yes, all those years of being faithful despite the circumstances haven't helped at all!!
2006-06-16 14:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by steve p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are usually support groups that you can go to & sex therpy,to help understand each others sexual needs. Your doctor maybe able to advise you as you dont really want this to end up with a split. Emotional strain can be too much after a while especially if it is very one sided within a relationship as this sounds. Best to address this problem now so try your doctor as your first port of call & go from there.
2006-06-16 11:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Shirkerra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not going to work. Your going to end up going out to find other people to have sex with on the side, just so that you can enjoy sex.
You need to be in a relationship with a person that has the same amount of sex drive.
2006-06-16 11:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure their are no healthe issues to start with.Then find out about the attraction factor.Both of you be honest as you can be.Then you will have to ask that 1 important question and that is if it don't change canyoustay with him?If not don't go any further it will only hurt worse later.
2006-06-16 13:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by ga44male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good answers so far. Men don't always want it all the time. Women are not always needed to be seduced. Men don't always know what to do and women don't always want to just lie there. Good sex starts with good communication which leads to trust and understanding. Try talking first and see where that leads too. It may well be that you both have issues that need to be discussed.....
2006-06-16 13:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ade Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess two must know what they like when it comes to sex.u should tell him what kind u like and maybe that is the one reason that keeps both of u fighting.of course if one another is satisfied with it, everybody is happy.but if u think that is the only area of ur indifference, why not take it as a second to none aspect?but of course, sex is one of the most beautiful things that a couple share.
2006-06-16 11:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by stunning 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if a bit of jealousy will motivate him, it worked for me, she has a much lower drive than me and I was having to practicly beg for it until she saw me emailing a female freind (it wasn't for monkey business, just a friend), now we are back up to the rate we had right after we got married.
2006-06-16 11:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tom H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you two aren't married. You know how people are always saying, don't have sex on the first date. That doesn't always apply and it doesn't necessarily make you a ****. What if you wait to have sex, get married and come to find out, he doesn't satisfy you. Then you get divorced because you have "irreconciable differences." I say, leave him.
2006-06-16 11:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by drea_1078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When was his last trip to the doctor? Sometimes a low sex drive is just that, but sometimes there is a medical reason.
2006-06-16 11:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋