To married people?

Question

I went out on a date with a woman a couple days ago. After meeting her outside of the coffee shop we went inside and ordered our drinks. As soon as we sat down across from eachother I felt something strange the moment I looked into her eyes. Keep in mind, I had not had a single conversation with her in person because we met online. I've dated tons of women and never experienced this feeling before. My question is, when you first met your spouse did you have a similar sensation? Is this what love at first sight really means? Please be 100% honest with me.

Answer 1

I was definitely attracted at first site, and second and third. My husband and I have now been together for 7 years. I think that it is likely just chemistry. She may have the right mixture for you. In addition, it could be that you knew one another in another life and are meeting again as you are meant to do. Or, that you are soul mates and destiny is bringing you together.

What ever it may be, don't screw it up. Go out again! Be a gentleman, take it slow and see if this is something that you want forever.

Even love at first sight is going to take a lot of work if you want to keep the fire hot.

Answer 2

My husband was my best friend first. I believe however you can meet a person for the first time and have chemistry based on a number of things like your vulnerability, physical attractions, your expectations and anxieties to fin the right one, etc. Do not rush things if the feeling is still there in a year of gazing into each others eyes then you know all the other things mentioned would have gone away with the lust but if it is true love it will still be there. I still get week everytime I gaze into my husbands eyes whether or not I am angry, dissappointed, or hurt by something he may have done. I love him.

Answer 3

Well, I'm almost married and I met my fiance over 2 years ago (we've been living together for 2 years and engaged for 6 months..yeah we rushed it but it worked for us!) and honestly, I loved him at SECOND glance. My first impression of him was that he was a player (he seeing 6 girls at the time), he wasn't cocky but overly confident, and I thought to myself, "who does this guy think he is?!". But later that night when I got talking to him, I'd never opened up with someone as much as I did with him, and him with me..we just brought out the best in eachother to be better people. He dropped his 6 girlfriends, I moved down to be with him and we've been together ever since. I didn't know from the moment I met him that he was going to be THE ONE, or that 2 years later he'd be my fiance...I would have been a little nicer if I did! But spending that entire weekend with him, I knew that something amazing was going to happen. Love at second sight is always seeing that person for who they are and being realistic about it, so see what happens then...if it's stronger then it's probably going to turn into something amazing. Good luck.

Answer 4

The first time I met my husband we weren't even going out on a date. He was my sister's boyfriend's friend from out of town. While shaking his hand, I looked up into his eyes and bam! We've been together for 5 years. Happily married. I think I would consider that love at first sight.

Answer 5

For me nope. I met my wife when she was dating my roomate was several months before we started dating. I remember thinking she was good looking when I met her, but she was a polar opposite of me so it took a while to get to know her before I figured out I liked her.

Sure there is love at first sight for some people, I've had it in girls I dated before meeting my wife. It's no excuse to not engage your brain though.

Some people just hit it off and you sit there thinking hrmm this all feels right, but remember time is the best test if that feeling is real or if you are just horny and excited at the prospect of someone who perhaps would be normally out of your league being receptive to your advances.

Answer 6

The only time I felt that sensation was w/someone who ended up being totally wrong for me. When I met my current spouse, I did not get any sparks. I found him attractive in a passing way, and we became best friends over the years before getting married. And yes, he is THE one!! Satisfies me in every way possible.

Answer 7

The first time my husband and I met I remember feeling so incredibly comfortable with him. We talked for hours about everything and it felt so good to be around him. Your situation could be love at first sight, but whether or not you two will end up getting married, only time can tell.

Answer 8

I met the woman I eventually married on-line, and when we first met in person a year later, we both had exactly the same feeling you describe. We have been married for 10 years, and are still best friends.

Answer 9

I felt the same thing with my hubby the second I met him. He was only 19 and I 20 but we eloped 3 months later and yesterday was our 11th year annivesery!!! (take that mother in law who gave it a year)

It was just a feeling I had that I knew with him I was not so empty feeling and he made me smile, laugh and enjoy life...still does.

Good luck I really hope this is the one for you!!

Answer 10

Yep! He literally took my breath away lol, and we didn't even greet each other we just gawked lol. It was not a date as I was the bar tender.... and he tried to ask for a beer, his brother had to ask for him! On our first date a week later he proposed, I choked and said give me some time.... Anyways a year later we got married and now it is 7 years later and he still takes my breath away. Either by infuriating me or rescuing me!!!