How do you believe again in your boyfriend after he's cheated on you?

Answer 1

It depends upon your ages and what you define as "cheating." If you are teens and new to dating, sometimes going out to a movie or dancing with another person is perceived as cheating. It is not reasonable to expect young people just learning what is important to them in another person or in relationships to be "forever true." This does not allow them to mature. However, if you are adults on your own who have committed to each other, the cheating takes on a different dimension. Unless he is freely willing to fully accept responsibility for his actions and do whatever is necessary, perhaps including couples therapy, to get back into your good graces and earn your trust, the relationship is not going to be successful. This is especially true if fidelity is a very important thing to you. If he is blaming you, minimizing, or making excuses, you are just going to have to accept the fact that he is
1. Not committed to you or
2. Immature or
3. A philanderer by nature or
4. Any combination or all of the above.
Take a hard honest look at yourself and him and do what is in your own best interests. If it is number 1 or 3, chances are he will never change his behavior. If he is immature and young, you may need to take a break and give him a couple of years or so to grow up. If he is older, say 28 or so, and still immature, don't expect him to change either.

Bottom line--respect yourself and do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

Answer 2

That is a real difficult one... I know where you are right now as I have been in that same position.

The fact that he cheated will always be with you. How I was able to cope was that I was able to see that my boyfriend's actions were consistant with what he was saying. meaning he earned my trust back by following through on what he said he was going to do...If it does not feel right about what he saying, it probalbly isn't .. only you will know in your gut what the truth is ....
If you can not give up the notion that he cheated you may want to move on regardless of how you you feel... it will hurt for a while but you will find someone better

Answer 3

Well in my opinion and life experiences it really depends on the person. I had a boyfriend that had cheated on me once. And it was tough to get through but after sitting down and laying some ground rules down it didnt happen again and we have been happily married for 6 years now..

Answer 4

Its a chance that you take. After two divorces because of his cheating, I am starting to believe the old saying, once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 5

My husband cheated on me and after three years I still find it very hard to ever trust him again

Answer 6

It is hard to believe after some you love breaks your trust,just take it one day at a time.

Answer 7

That is very hard to do. Trust along with respect has to be earned and not abused. You could try to give him another chance, but in your heart you'll always have that feeling of what he's doing when your not around.

Answer 8

Ask your self are you better off with or without him? It's gonna take time to see if he's trust worthy. Wouldn't you want forgiveness if you made a mistake? If he is truly sorry, give him some time and space and let him prove himself.Make him "earn" you back ;)

Answer 9

once the trust is broken it is almost impossable to regain no matter how much you say you forgive him it will always be in the back of your mind. Once the trust gone the relationship isnt far behind usually

Answer 10

Get him to do three things:

1. Promise never to be alone with the girl he had affair with
2. Never to cheat again
3. to get your name tattooed in large letters somewhere prominent on his body.