How many people here do things the way they want to and are not over worried about what others think? Do you do something to please yourself or do you do it to please those around you?
2006-06-16 03:55:53 · 13 answers · asked by Purple.Space.Cadette 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I believe that it's always about benefiting you. Even when you do something to please others or "Do The Right Thing", you are doing it for a reason that involves you or your situation.
It may be that being kind to someone would make them feel obligated or that others would have good thoughts about you. Or, you may expect to be loved in return, if not directly... indirectly. More than likely it's NOT an unconscious thought. You think of the pros's and con's of just about everything you do.
2006-06-16 04:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by tom thumb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what, the older I have gotten the less I feel like I live this life for me. I don't see life as being all about me. I mean, I find joy in being and doing for others. So others do impact my decisions--not out of peer pressure or convention but out of respect and love and even my own personal fulfillment. Pleasing others is what pleases me. It may sound Arthurian--but I live to serve and serve to live.
We are all a part of a greater whole, connected in some way. Those connections are going to influence us otherwise we are simply acting selfishly.
The challenge of life especially for young adults is finding the connections that best suit the individual and that can take some selfishness. So I don't think I would answer this question the same if I were eighteen.
2006-06-16 11:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by adieu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I do something that pleases or benefits others it ends up pleasing me and benefiting me because it makes me feel good about myself. If I do something for the sole benefit of pleasing myself disregarding who or how it will affect others then it makes me feel selfish and I don't like that. So it really isn't a matter of what others think it's how I feel about who I am as a person.
2006-06-16 11:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the thing, but most of the time I do what I want and not worry about others. Others meaning, people that I do not know. I always consider my family and friends. But in the end I think about what's best in general.
2006-06-16 11:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by lojack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question.
Haven't you ever done something in your life which make someone happy, and in the end, their happiness makes you happy?
Well actually, we spend times to do something benefit to ourselves, it's human you can't do much to change this. But sometimes, we feel pity for others, so we have this will to help. Help can be pleasuring when it comes from the heart (but still have this feeling of pity). And when you feel helpful and you did a good job, you feel happy because you are useful.
To end my answer, I would say that everything we do is benefit to ourselves unless you were forced to do it. Like, if my answer can help you, it's benefit to right? but also benefit to me because I feel useful to help and I would tell myself that I'm someone who's not that bad and you know... ;)
2006-06-25 08:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by kaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I typically don't care what others think about anything that I say or do. I'm not rude to others, and I am often helpful to others. Sometimes I neglect to help myself. There are times where I have done something for my own pleasure (personal gain), but not at the expense of hurting another person.
2006-06-26 00:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Amy Swallows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to find a happy compromise for both parties involved, including me. If there is no compromise, if it is something I truly believe in to be right, I benefit ME. Otherwise, if it is iffy and not something I think HAS to be, then I will please the other party.
2006-06-26 08:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by GOUTVOLS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do things to benefit everyone, not just myself, but i am included in everyone, every once in awhile i will put others in front of myself, and put myself last, but it is a cruel world, if u dont do things for urself u cant expect ppl to do things for you, not everyone is like you and i, u know? but u should always do something to benefit the world around you, helping out urself is just selfish. ;) later gater :D
2006-06-26 18:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people may think that i always please others
personally, i think it's only that i choose to do so, because i would like others to be happy/ i would like to be nice to others
so this can be for myself
on the other hand, i make all/ most of my important decisions
and try to let others understand me
2006-06-16 11:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by bgrt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we want to show that we do things just for the others.but if we deeply think,we hardly do sth which has no benefit in for ourselves.
2006-06-16 11:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Saeed K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋