2006-06-16 03:52:04 · 16 answers · asked by l.g. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi. This can only be answered by yourself. Can u ever trust him again? Would you be wondering if he was late coming home from work? But the main question is do you still love him? If you do them you just need time and you need to voice your concerns. Lock him in your house and scream at him how you feel, you have got to let it out even if he doesnt want to listen, you have to make him see your point of view. He has been totally selfish. You need to make your mind up. But before you do, just think if you could stand it seeing him with someone else if you left him. If you dont love him anymore, then stop wasting your time and divorce the **** head. If you have kids, it hard but you have to put yourself first and do whats best for you. Dont just stay with him for the sake of the kids because if the parents are unhappy then so are the kids. You need to find out if it was a one off or does he have feelings for someone else. Is it over or still going on? does he want to stay with you or the other person? all these questions you need to ask? Force him to listen to you. Good luck.
2006-06-19 02:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by bevsthe1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have three choices:
1/ Leave him or chuck him out - but what will that achieve?
2/ Never trust him again and allow this thing to eat away at you forever
3/ Clear the air totally and let him know that if he ever sets a foot wrong again he is out. And then, NEVER, EVER MENTION IT AGAIN. Just forget it and move on. If you ever dwell on this, ever mention it again, ever throw it in his face in the heat of an argument, you are doomed.
If you love him and want to be with him, then option three is your only choice. Clear the air and get over it. Remember, he chose you. He could have left you but he didn't - he elected to stay with you, she was just a sh*g. And don't believe it when you're told he'll do it again. That's not necessarily true ...
2006-06-16 11:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
I have just been through a similar situation so feel that I can help.
What you need is to do is not blame yourself for anything he has done. you will feel anger, humiliation and distress.
you cannot be rational at this point in time. and time does change things ....can you forgive him, can you forget, can you trust again?
do you love him? does he love you?
Do you want to go out and get revenge, by sleeping with another(he could be married too and you are at the same level as the woman he slept with) who goes that low? respect yourself.
I took counselling and they said it's the excitement and danger
these people love and crave. poor souls.
take a look at what you have and what you really really want
hold your head high and do what your heart tells you.
it hurts now and will for a long time.....!
2006-06-17 02:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by goldenhoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time he has cheated? You need to seek counseling and help for your pain and dont ask him why just let it go. Talk to him about it when you are calm and breathe.... Let him choose when to talk and come to you and see if he is open to going to counseling with you. I can understand you are hurt but we need to learn to hold our tongues even when we hurt. How did you find out he cheated and how long ago was this?
2006-06-16 12:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The door into your house opens, IN, and OUT! Leave for awhile, collect your thoughts, then re-address the problem with him. Your leaving will make him see you are serious, and that what he has done is hideous. I'm sorry you're in pain, and believe me, I KNOW it hurts, but you need to get away from him, and the pain for awhile....then talk to him. Good Luck!!
2006-06-16 10:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes cheated on you then ask him to leave. If hes not telling you why or who he cheated with then hes not worth getting upset about and just give him a bit of GIRL POWER and tell him to leave!!!
Think to yourself - Im better than her, I dont need you, other women can make it on their own and so can I.
Good luck and I hope you teach him a lesson.
You could always give his favourite pair of trousers a little trim
2006-06-16 11:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Supertwirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it your husband is still living with you. If he does not want to talk about it I would be. You are in pain and he must see that. Tell him you want to talk about it and you are miserable because of his lack of talk. By not talking about it it causing you more stress resulting in more problems in your fragile marriage at this time..I wish you luck.
2006-06-18 10:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by flymetothemoon279 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to spend some time apart and re-evaluate your marriage and then try talking things out either together or with a qualified 3rd party ...
2006-06-16 10:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to stay married to you he's gonna have to talk about it. Fact. Don't let him sweep things under the carpet, you will end up living a compromised life.
2006-06-16 12:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about this - he is indeed a coward! He does not deserve to have you. If you love him very much and wish to keep him, you will have to persist with him and make him discuss the matter truthfully. Good luck.
2006-06-16 11:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋