2006-06-16 03:35:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give her your love, support and shoulder to cry on. Hold her hand, wash her dishes and listen when she is ready to talk. Do not say things like: You can always have another, your baby is in better place, life goes on, I wonder what caused it etc. Just listen, love and let her work through it.
2006-06-16 03:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by nyotauhuru 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is so so sad. Althought time will make things easier, your friend will never get over this completely. Theres nothing you can say, just tell her that whenever she needs you, you will be there. I would imagine she will probably need some time initially to process what has happened, and you should respect this if she needs some space, but all you can do is be there.
Little gestures like ringing the doorbell and leaving some dinner for her, or running errands will go a long way.
2006-06-16 10:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by lovethesun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These situations are always difficult. You know that your friend is probably feeling guilt, so don't mention that. Simply, be there. Help her with life management issues, like meals, shopping, other chores. She will be experiencing grief for a long time, because nothing hurts like the loss of a child. Kubler-Ross wrote a book on "Death and Dying" and it helps you to understand the five phases of grief. You should be able to find it at your local library.
2006-06-16 10:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you open your arms and hold her! Venting is very important in the healing process which could take a long period of time. Don't pretend it didn't happen and let her know that on the date of the baby girls birth you will do something special with her .. alone... honor the child's short life... don't ignore it. + they will be together again.. GOD needed her... that's all. Sometimes the best thing you could say.. is nothing.
2006-06-16 10:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by smbiker52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you are available to be there for her 24/7 for as long as she needs you and she can call on you for anything she needs. I am a parent myself and cannot even begin to understand the pain she must be going through right now. DON'T say anything like 'your pain will subside over time'. It won't help at all.
2006-06-16 18:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by suds750 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the answers you've been getting to just be there for your freind. You can cry and grieve with her.
One thing that might be nice is to cook for her and help out with any daily chores or other responsibilities she may have.
She needs time to greive. But most of all pray for her!
2006-06-16 12:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by juddzey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, ther isn't really much you can say to her. the bond between a mom and her child, even at that young age is very strong. she has to go through her grieving process, whichever way it may be, and if she wants you there, be there to support her. after all, she is your best friend. hugs always help, too. let her know that you are there supporting her whenever she needs you. hope i helped.
2006-06-16 10:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by completepsycho. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her shoulder to cry on, times like this are what matters the most and shows what kind of person that you really are.
2006-06-16 10:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by tashas33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres not much u can say in words but as long as u r there for her when she needs to cry scream or shout. give her time her grief will pass.
2006-06-16 10:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with her, make her feel that
you are available for any moral
support. No need to use any Words!
2006-06-16 10:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋