When we are with friends, he uses to do hold them, kiss them, and touch their hands in a way that seems to me too intimate… I really don't like it. Moreover, his friends do not behave the same way to me. I told him, but he said that it is nothing serious, just a joke and that those women just like it. But it still bothers me. When I try to tell him so, he usually becomes so offensive to me. Is it OK, or am I too sensitive? Please, tell me what to do?
2006-06-16 03:34:39 · 19 answers · asked by smiiile 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
No your not too sensitive, your husband needs to realize he is married, and there is such a thing as "Emotional Adultery". He's not single anymore, stop acting like it!
2006-06-16 06:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by SR1973 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Did he do this before you were married? If so did it bother you then? If it started after you were married I would ask him why he changed to touch and kiss other women, and why? Does he get anything from doing so? does it turn him on? does he like these women? If i were in this situation I would be asking a lot of questions and making it stop real quick.. Just tell him how you feel if he loves you he will stop it. Good Luck!!
2006-06-16 03:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by danmiss4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well YOU make the rules for your relationship... not me.
I'm a very physical guy... and I touch my friends... I hug my friends... even the guys. (It's the Italian in me)...
Some of them Don't HUG back... most have learned that I'm going to hug them or touch them anyways... so they've given up.
(and some, have even come to expect it... and like it)
I suspect that if you are having a problem with this... it's not so much because he's giving away "intimacy"... but rather... you're not getting enough. And you might be doing things to inadvertently cheat yourself out of "your fair share" of the goods.
Examine yourself... then have a conversation with HUBBY.
You may be able to come to an understanding... and get a little of what you may not even know you're missing...
2006-06-16 03:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be true that your hubby doesn't mean anything by it. Some people are really touchy-feely. However, if he loves you, he should be a little more sensitive to your discomfiture. If he cannot help but touch people, at the very least he should make an effort not to do so very often.
2006-06-16 03:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by slvrdlphn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
D.I.V.O.R.C.E!
Either that, or the next time all his friends are over, come out in your slinkiest lingerie, throw on some hot sexy music, and dance all around the room, rubbing yourself in a very provocative manner against all his friends, getting them all excited. Heck, grab the ugliest one and lay a big fat wet frenchie on him. Then turn to your husband with a s**t-eating grin and tell him, "Honey, it's just a joke!"
2006-06-16 04:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Roseann S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being to sensitive. If my husband did that I would act the same way. Just continue to tell him how you feel about it, if it doesn't work, give him a taste of his own medicine and act that way towards his friends.
2006-06-16 03:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're simply 2 different people. It's harmless fun for many people, others consider it wrong, just depends on how you're brought up I suppose.
Maybe his friends would act like that with you if you come across as not minding the attention, but I'm just guessing.
2006-06-16 03:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is giving things away that should be for you only now that you are married. He wouldn't be so offensive if he wasn't guilty. Hes going to one day bring home something Ajax wont wash off. If he loves you he would be more considerate of your feelings.
2006-06-16 04:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Diana D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you do the same thing to the other men? What's his reaction. If he said okay, then you have a problem. He simply does care about you. If he said not okay, then you should make him get the picture, then he should stop doing that...
2006-06-16 03:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by LetMEtell&AskYOU 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his name Richard Dawson from Family Fued?
2006-06-16 03:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋