my b/f and I have been together 6 months and he wants a baby. we are long distance right now and I really feel like it's too soon. i took the morning after pill cause i had a scare and he accused me of killing his baby. i couldnt believe it. we arent married, I haven't moved there yet, and i really want to be with him longer before having a baby so we can experience just the 2 of us. (fyi.. im mid 20's) he thinks i don't have faith in me and him, but i know we are in no position to have a baby right now. what would you do?
2006-06-16 03:23:27 · 14 answers · asked by Cupid 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh, WAY too soon. Tell him again how you feel about waiting. If he is accusing you of killing his baby, he might be a little bit insane. I hate to say it, but that's the way it sounds. You are half the couple and actually have more of a right to decide than he does (though he should definitely be in on it) because it's your body. Six months is way too soon. It might not last. I'd wait until you are married. If he can't understand and respect your wishes on the subject, get out of that relationship. That is a HUGE, non-negotiable issue that is a potential relationship breaker.
2006-06-16 03:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why is he in such a hurry to get you pregnant? If you don't feel ready to have a baby yet, then it isn't fair to either you or a baby to insist you do have a baby.
He hasn't made any commitment to take care of you or you're baby, until you are married. And even then, he may not support the baby. Look at all the women with children who are suffering because the father's don't pay their child support.
When you can trust him to be committed to you and your baby, then it is time to start thinking about it.
2006-06-16 03:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pregnant. He obviously isn't being understanding. If you are not ready - DON"T DO IT! Plus you aren't married. Give it some time and if he can't understand, then he's not right for you. 6 months is not long at all. Especially 6 months of not living together. If you both are living together you both might discover things about each other that you can't stand. Good luck!
2006-06-16 03:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!! After 6 months, you barely know him. (And you live far away from each other) You would have to be crazy to have a baby with him now, he sounds a little wierd to me. What if you did have a baby with him and then he turned out to be a total weirdo- like a Michael Jackson or something!!!
2006-06-16 03:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you wanna wait a little longer. That your not ready for a baby. Wait for you guys to move in together, and get stable. thats the best thing you can do.
2006-06-16 03:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you should have a baby until you are married and the relationship is stable. If he does not agree, then he should find someone else to make babies with.
2006-06-16 03:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd straighten him out! Tell him it's YOUR body, YOU'RE the one that will carry it for 9 months and raise it until it's 18. If he gives you a hard time about it, DUMP HIM!!! There's plenty of fish in the sea. You're not even married.
2006-06-16 03:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by kimmyisahotbabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he loves you, he will understand your concerns and wait awhile! Rushing into having a family is never a good idea. Your relationship is still fresh. Enjoy doing things together first.
2006-06-16 03:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT !!!! 6 months isn't long enough and with the long distance thing, forget it right now.
2006-06-16 03:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sinful to have a baby with out getting married!!!
If he is willing to marry you then he is willing to commet to you and his baby.. life ain't a game..
He sounds like he is playing mind games with you saying you have killed our unborn child.
Do what you feel is right and don't let him get to you with his mind games..
Good luck.
2006-06-16 03:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋