I have a problem with being friends with women...?

Question

I want to have female friends but its like everytime i get repor with them I get attracted to them

I am no that hard to please if a girl shows me attention I just start to feel something for her no matter what she looks like

Is there some way I can rid myself of this so I can move on with my life... I want to have female friends that stay female friends and nothing more.

Could there be something wrong with me that this happens? Like me being insecure or something like that I just want an answer to show me why this happens.

Ok you guys arnt making any sense lol

tell me something I dont know

Answer 1

Instincts are instincts. Go with them.

Answer 2

Some guys just can't have female friends, simply put. Actually, many people believe that when a man or a woman are good good friends, eventually, one of them will make a move and either start a relationship or kill the friendship. By what you say, you cannot have female friends. You might as well just avoid the "friend zone" and get right into things.

Answer 3

I TOTALLY understand how you feel, believe me. It's just how things are sometimes - some people are just easily attracted. In fact, I kinda face the same situation right now but maybe not exactly the same. Anyway, that's close enough. I keep telling myself that it comes and goes but deep down inside me, I'm uncertain if that's entirely true. I think the most important thing right now is just to keep it to yourself and continue being friends. At the same time, occupy yourself with what you enjoy doing so that you won't get too distracted to that particular person. Don't worry too much, it's okay for you to feel that way.

Answer 4

Your human! Stop beating yourself up.

What's your intention when you become friends with someone? Maybe, deep down, you really are just looking for someone.

Write a list of what you want in a friend. Then, write a list of what you want in a partner. Compare the two. No on has to read it so it doesn't matter what you write.

You will be your own judge, so get rid of all your "oh, I shouldn't want that", and "can't expect this". There are no limits to what you want. Just be honest with you.

Also, ask yourself what you want in a male friend. Then, what you want from a female friend.

You have to be REALLY HONEST with yourself. No one else, just you. If you really are looking for that someone, it's okay, but the only one your being dis-honest with is you.

We can bulls**t ourselves really good so....

Answer 5

No there is nothing wrong with you; its fact that girls and guys can never just be friends becuase someone is always attracted to the other person. You should try watching the movie "When Harry met Sally" it will make sense after that and you will feel better about yourself.

Answer 6

nothing wrong with you... i have female friends that i am attracted to & we are just friends .
you can't say that or you will never make friends with (pardon the expression) "hot chicks"
this is not fair to the "hot chicks" all women should be treated equally.

you see the only relationship that you have associated with women so far is a sexual one so when you find yourself in a friend situaltion with a women you sexuallize it.

you need to understand that it is ok to have a women that you attracted to as a friend....just don't bust any moves on & you will see how rewarding it is to have women friends. after you associate women as people instead of sex objects you will be less likely to sexullize every relationship that you get involved wtih a woman.

hope this helps,

ss

Answer 7

As a woman, I can not relate to this. I have a sex drive, believe me. Women naturally can separate sex and friendship. It is not a struggle. The older I get, the more I realize that the words "male" and "sex" are almost interchangeable. I am not criticizing. It is just an observation. I envy your constant ability to get horny but I'm glad that I never confuse sex with friendship. I like lots of guys, but the thought of sex with them is not something I think about. Just because they are males, and I desire sex , doesn't mean I desire sex with THEM. If it did, I'd be happy on the one hand but living dangerously on the other hand. Thanks for letting me express myself but you probably need the advice of man, or better yet....a therapist. Most people who seek the advice of a therapist are very sane, very normal. They are simply seeking advice. Good luck, you horny bastard. Just kidding. Good luck, friend. Really.

Answer 8

I experienced this same problem for many years - I could not JUST be friends with a man....it always led to more - here is what I did Imade sure that my friend knew up fronmt what the deal was and he helped me alot - we became really super friends - without benefits.....I also became friends with a gay man - I knew he would not sleep with me - but it worked, now I can have male friends without the added benefits

Answer 9

easy solution.
get married, and have sex daily with your wife.
believe me, that way you will have a lot of female friends, and
since you have a wife you love, and a good healty sex life,
you will not have that desire to hunt other femals -
well, lets face it, you are a man....of course you stay a hunter, but it will be way less, and will just happens with girls more beautiful then your wife. So get the ost sexy and beatiful wife, better then any other girls :)

Answer 10

if you are not in a committed relationship- it would be easy to find a female friend to have certain qualities that attract you- thats why you are friends in the first place- you like her. without someone special in your life- i can see how something could easily change from friendship to romance. what you have to ask yourself - is this a gal i would want to marry???? if not, be friends only and stay committed to that

Answer 11

well maybe because it is what u say somtimes a man feels that comfort from a women because they lac it as a child maybe instead of having female friends now focus on ur issues ans then u shall moved fowerd good luck and dose be affread