They just cause conflict.....I know you can have loving relationships too by working out misunderstandings but are they really worth it? Is it just better to keep to yourself so nobody can hurt you? Isn't it better to just be alone and surround yourself with your own interests and hobbies? Of course, I'm not talking about relationships with your children.
2006-06-16 02:59:50 · 9 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm talking about friendships too!
2006-06-16 03:08:39 · update #1
Conflict is a part of life, on some level it is essential for us. But relationships are so much more than just conflict. They help us grow, and fulfill a very real social need. As humans we are not solitary creatures, we need others. As for romantic relationships, well I'm just an old softy, but sometimes when I've had a rough day, my girl would just tell me that she loves me, and everything would be good. It can be rough, but sometimes it can totally be worth it.
2006-06-16 03:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by sarge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're scared of confrontation, then I'll be the first to say don't enter any relationships.
But if you want a real and loving bond, then there will need to be some bumps in the road in order for you two to grow. As I was taught: "You must have a breakdown before you have a breakthrough" - that's what relationships are like. You grow from problems and eventually develop an even stronger relationship.
Don't go into relationships expecting perfection.
Or you'll be sadly disappointed every single time.
2006-06-16 10:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fact of life is that people hurt other people--sometimes intentionally and sometimes not. You can't go through life not getting hurt or hurting others. You can try, and you can choose the best way you know, but the minute one person's will conflicts with yours you might hurt them or they you.
But what kind of life would it be, alone? I mean are you just going to experience everything via the TV or books? Yes, you can get hurt but we can learn so much and feel so much joy because of others. I mean, the thing that broke my heart most was watching my niece die. It tore me apart, but to never have known her? She brought me so much joy. I learned so much about life in her short life. I still have joyful moments reflecting back on that painful experience because it wasn't all pain. She brought my family closer together.
Nietsche said "Hell is other people." But honestly, aren't they heaven too? Don't they make it worth sticking around for?
I can tell by the question you asked that you are losing faith in people. You have been wronged and hurt. But honestly, you are asking people right now to change your faith. That act is indeed wanting input from others and you still have a little faith in people of this forum.
What you need to do is ask questions of real people--and figure out who you can and can not trust. There out there for you and you just have to find them. Sure some may bring you pain, but don't discount the joy they will bring you. Don't discount the joy you could bring them.
Be blessed.
2006-06-16 11:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by adieu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some would argue that the conflict inherent to many relationships is a necessary evil that comes with a very fulfilling part of ones life. I wouldn't however. I honestly don't see a point to the whole thing.
2006-06-16 10:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'truth' of the human situation these days is rapidly becoming a case of, not being able to count on others. It is not better to be alone. Do not fear intimacy. Sharing your life with another, whether through friendship or a loving relationship is one of the only forms of 'true' currency left that gives our life meaning.
2006-06-16 10:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is that we are all social beings...
...as social beings we require companionship, amicable relations, direction from community, and a sense of value and worth from others.
On an individual level we require nurturance and contact to survive.
what we gain from having our feelings hurt is the strength to survive in an opinionated society of free wills.
what we learn from misunderstanding and adversity is the ability to articulate our needs.
2006-06-16 11:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some, it really is about love and being in love with that other person. for many its a security thing of some sort. in some sexual relationships it may be about reducing the risk of contracting something.
2006-06-16 10:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by bdrck78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is emotional fulfillment!! that's why we always seeks for partners....we need emotional fulfillment just like we need air, water, and food!
2006-06-16 19:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kinda like looking for a dog you just keep on going until you find one that you'll find suitible for you and one that you can spend your time with
2006-06-16 10:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by ohla G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋