How do I get my ex out of my home?

Question

I still care for him, I just want to move on with my life. Without him right there, in my face all the time. I feel sorry for him, and I know that it is not a good thing to do.

Answer 1

open door use foot then close door

Answer 2

Sounds like he is around all the time. His he insecure? I understand how you can feel sorry for someone, but maybe it's time to feel sorry for yourself and just go for it. Do you really want to spend the next 10 years letting someone live with you when deep down you don't want him there?

If you have a hard time voiceing out, then I suggest writing him a letter. You can be there while he reads it if you want. I would. In a letter you can atleast say everything you need to say. He will then probably want to argue about it with you. Thats when you inform him if he truely loves you he will let go.

I gather from your question that part of the reason you want him to go is because he doesn't give you enough space to be by yourself and with your friends. If this is true you may want to tell him. But beware, because he may tell you he will give you that space. He will for a little while and then it will probably go back to the same old way. Remember this is only an opinion and I have been known to be wrong. After all, I don't know all the circumstances, him or you. Good luck

Answer 3

I know exactly how you are feeling. I have been separated for 5 years now and it still does not make it easy. The way I got him out was to pack some of his things up and pass them to him and told him to go. There is no easy way to get "rid of" someone you have shared a loving relationship. You can always sit him down and talk about it too. Unfortunatly for me that just did not work. The only good thing I can tell you that once you get moving on with your life you will fell great and its full of promises.

Answer 4

Can't call the cops, he lives there.
Can't change the locks, unless you call a lock smith, set up an appointment, etc.

Then if you did, you could get in trouble for locking him out of his house. There is this whole "homestead" type deal.

My suggestions will be reasonable and insane. You choose:

#1 - Talk to someone in his family. Call them and be bold.
#2 - Talk to one of his friends. same message
#3 - If still nothing.... talk to his BOSS.

Now, aside from that, you can do some other things.
A - Put house up for sale, sure you'll have to move but then you get fresh start and opt out of responsibility of making him leave.

B - Bring home boxes and a girlfriend and pack his stuff
C - Start dating (only if you know he won't hurt you)
D - Put an ad in the newspaper! (this actually worked for a buddy of mine)

Cheers and good luck

Oh and you could bring that friend home and tell him that he ruined it for you and now you're a lesbian!

hahahahahahaha sorry, couldn't resist a dumb joke.

Answer 5

Tell him you want him out. Give him 30 days to find a place. Be sure to state that deadline explicitly. Let him know that 31 days from now the locks will be changed on the house and if he's not out by that date, you'll move his stuff out onto the lawn. Don't waver. Don't feel sorry for him. He'll try to trick you into letting him stay, but be strong. Stick to your guns. If you show weakness, he'll exploit it.

Then, on day 31, if he's not out, do what you promised. Put his stuff out and change the locks on the door. It would also be helpful if you had witnesses to the eviction notice. Put it in writing and deliver it to him with someone who can witness the delivery.

Answer 6

Eleven years ago I had to tell my ex-husband whom I still cared for to move out as I wanted to move on. It was very hard, but I had to do it for myself. I packed his stuff for him and when he came home after work I told him to pick up the phone and start looking for a place to sleep that night. When he came up with excuses why he wouldn't find a place, I told him he had 15 minutes then he'd be on his own without the convenience of a phone. That's when he realized I was serious. Guess, he found a place on the first phone call he made! I never saw him again. I moved on. It may sound harsh, but its the only way. For yourself!

Answer 7

HAVE A SINCERE CONVERSATION WITH HIM! Tell him that although you really cares about him and you love him as a friend, you need to move on with your life. Insist that it's important for you to begin a new life! Offer him your help to find a new place to move in and reassure him that you will call him often.
Don't throw him out of your house because you care about him! By telling him the truth, he may be upset but he will surely understand that it's time to leave you alone.

Answer 8

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

By being kind and letting him stay you are not helping him move on. Tell him you are having a friend move in in a month's time and that he'll need to find somewhere else to live then. If he does leave at the end of the month change the locks.

Answer 9

You can't kick him out really without an eviction notice. If you still care for him though, that might hurt him, maybe you should sit down with him and have a talk about him moving out so you can both get on with your lives and maybe compromise. Maybe he can come by every other weekend or so and spend the night if you are both comfortable with that.

Answer 10

Tell him hes got to get out in order for you to be able to move on with your live. Give him 30 days to find somewhere else to live tell him at the end of the 30 days he has to go reguardless of if hes found something or not. Tell him its just to awkward to have him there you really need some space and are trying to get on with your life without him.

Answer 11

Listen sweetie, not to be rude but that is wrong with alot of young ladies in this generation, we are so busy feeling sorry for these n**gaz that we don't know how to tell them like it is! I'ma be real with you, if the shoe was on the other foot he would kick your a** out so fast you would not have time to bend over and tie your own shoe!!!!!!!