why does life seem low and i wished i was dead?

Question

i was injured in a crash 2 years ago pain causes depression the medical people do not see any closer to a cure also lost my job after wards and i am not as active as i would like to be

Answer 1

get yourself along to an Anthony Robbins seminar asap or even just get one of his books off amazon online. it's worth every penny and I've seen some very disabled people make some big life changes after attending or reading his stuff. Do everything you can to get motivated by life and don't feel guilty or selfish about it. you are worth the effort. you have been given a chance of a new life after a crash. it won't be easy but you're alive and above ground so you're a success today for a start. hold on there. it will be ok and it will get better. Big hug to get you started.

Answer 2

I know your feeling low and I'm really sorry! you know sweety all of us have had our moments when we felt that way. Research your injury on the internet, perhaps there is a doctor somewhere else that has been more successful in this area. Ask your doctor about a more substantial pain killer (some pain killers dont work well on one person but are great for another, for instance I find solphidene useless but other people think its great).
Swimming is a gentle form of exercise perhaps you could try that, I do not know enough information about your job or indeed the crash to come up with other suggestions.
Life is very precious, we only have one, so dont entertain those thoughts anymore.
Take it day by day, I do that if I am feeling really down. There is always someone better off than us out there and equally if you really look around, there is always someone worse off.
You know what, pat yourself on the back, instead of sitting there doing nothing you have taken the first step, communicating your problem online and asking for advice, dont stop there though, keep trying.

Answer 3

There are times when to make it from one day to the next is a real achievement. For each of us there is a different solution but every time it comes down to feeling good about yourself.

If you answered one question on here and somebody was grateful, you have made one person happy. You may not even hear about it (though often you do).

I would just say: Yes, it is VERY, VERY hard sometimes. Just do what you can for the next minute, hour, day and remember that there really is always someone a little less fortunate than you and that you do have something you can give them.

I know that it's perhaps not very P.C. to say, but even if someone reading your question says "Hey, I'm not as badly off as that guy!", you have actually done something to raise their confidence level a little - and your life, your depression has been someone's step to the next level. Some will just climb on and not look back; a few will remember and offer their hand to you.

I hope you smiled a little at that thought! I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Hi. Obviously you are dealing here with a major depression. Many things can help or offer assistance: Some of the suggestions mentioned in your Q&A, a book about depression by Tim LaHaye that really addresses the thoughts behind depression (we are what we think), a drugstore product called Sam-E (PLEASE make sure this product is safe for use with your prescriptions), St. John's Wort (same advice), a prescription for a mild anti-depressant, and counselling or group support. Did the accident cause any chemical imbalance that you know of?
Listen, anyone in your situation is bound to suffer some depression. This is normal, but it's time to let go of what has become a habit. My husband has chronic pain....do you dwell on the pain or do you combat it by putting the focus elsewhere every time it happens? This is a tough issue. A pain management clinic may be able to help you with coping mechanisms and alternatives.
From my experience: What are you thankful for? Who can you help? What are your thoughts when you are depressed? Knowing these things can help.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going. You are still a useful person. If you are not employed-you can be, and if not for someone else, then for yourself. Life IS worth the living and there are some real heroes out there dealing with this and other adversities.
Feel free to message me. I am praying for you. Buttercup

Answer 5

Whilst I feel great sympathy for your situation (I've had a bit of an injury requiring surgical intervention myself) you've got to get your suffering into context. You're using a computer, therefore you are not likely to be in dire need of life's little necessities like clean water, shelter and food. Many people in the world are not in that situation so no matter how hard you think you've got it, someone somewhere is much worse off. I watch the children on the news burying their relatives or begging for enough money to survive the night and I wonder why.

Your pain can be addressed medically, your depression can be calmed by a good listener. You are still alive and while you remain so, I'd suggest taking life by the scruff of the neck and squeezing every last drop of enjoyment from it - You'll be a long time dead.

Answer 6

There is always someone worse off than you and I should take a look at some of the wards with people battling life threatening illnesses. If you see their determination it might give you some inspiration to carry on. I know it is difficult and I do sympathise. I have a friend with severe arthritus and vasculitus needing medication and change of bandages over open infected ulcers. These cause her severe pain and I have listened to her crying in agony over the phone when she is at her worst but she carries on. If authentic medicine cant help you have you tried alternative cures. Don`t stop any medication and carry on with anything your doctor advises but try alongside. Spiritual healing may give some relief aswell. I hope you do find freedom from pain and find peace of mind to enjoy your life.

Answer 7

Pain can be very exhausting and your low feelings may be due to many factors, including exhaustion. It is hard to sleep with pain, much of the time. It may be hard to exercise or find energy to eat right.

If your doctors approve it, try to do something gentle but physical to induce relaxation while stretching muscles, if possible. Gentle stretches can be great, but only if they do not increase pain. If you have the energy and it is not too painful, walking is good.

Gentle activity can help you feel better physically and can contribute to better rest. It can also help you feel better about yourself. It is hard to remember when you are feeling low, but you really do not know what beauty and joy may be waiting just around the next corner. It is often said that it is darkest before the dawn. If it is okay with your condition, try to drink alot of pure water to cleanse and refresh. Turn off the tv and don't allow negative people to hang around getting you down.

Try to celebrate nature and your own special nature. Afterall, look how many lives you have touched just by reaching out to others in this forum. Perhaps you have a knack for writing or drawing to express your feelings. Celebrate yourself! Best wishes to you. Please let us know how you are when you get a chance. _ Dinabee

Answer 8

This was a traumatic incident for you, this is bound to have changed your life perspective, but don't become a label.
Keep looking for something that will make you better, try a new diet, pain killers, talking to people.

Also try getting out more, use all services available to you to get everything that you are entitled to, but you have to push yourself. I know that it doesn't seem fair but you are the only person that can help you.

When you are active again, and the pain seems less then look at finding a job then, but get better first.

Good luck, you can do it just make sure that you try, that is all i can ask of you. X

Answer 9

Hun, you need to talk to someone professional about your depression. A Dr, a therapist, or even a pain support group. You need some way to release the emotional pain of losing all that you have lost. You are going through a grieving process and it takes a while to complete, especially if you have no emotional support or outlet.

Answer 10

You still sound depressed. Try another medication. You must force yourself to enjoy life once again. Meet an old friend, or find a new one. You must not give up and feel sorry for yourself. Bad things happen to everyone, and they keep going. Go to the park, listen to music, and look for another job to keep you busy. Talk to a psychologist or a psychiatrist.