Recently I have been feeling very down. My fiance of three years lost his job a couple of months ago and for a month or so I was the sole earner. I know this doesn't sound a long time, but it really hit my finances hard. He has now obtained part-time work as there is just now enough full-time work out there. He contributes as much as he can but we never seem to have enough money. On top of my day job, I have taken on a weekend job also to make ends meet. Also, we don't seem as in love as we were when we first met. I know things settle down after living together for a while but I can't see things working out. I have talked to him about this and he has said I need to think about whether or not I want to be with him any longer. I do in the respect that I still love him, but I can't help feeling that I'd be happier on my own. I am also worried that if we go our separate ways, he will have nowhere to go as I don't think his parents would want him back in their house. What do i do?
2006-06-16 02:30:22 · 10 answers · asked by kezzap80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you love him more than your own financial security? If so, chill out, enjoy the good stuff and keep working hard. If not, walk away before the resentment turns to hatred.
2006-06-16 02:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by FairyHoaxster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, first of all i need to tell u that people like u is very hard to find, may be ur boyfriend hasn't seen that yet. People just look for their own happiness, but you seem to be someone who is trying hard to keep both of you happy and that shows that u r not a sellfish person and u should be proud of that. Right now things seems to be quite tough thats why maybe u r trying to escape (by leaving him) which i personnaly think is not the right thing. It is those situation that makes a relationship stronger if and only if both of you get out of it. If u r by his side when he is in his worst sate in life( THERE'S ALWAYS UPS AND DOWN) tommorrow when he will find a job you guys would be really happy together. Unless he doesnt feel that u helped him in his painful situation.
Love is actaully sacrifice and u proved that u really love him. Give both of u some time.
If u seem to be weathering an endless winter, we mustnt abandon hope. As long as we have hope , spring will come without fail.
Am happy that there are still people like u in this world. Wish u all the best. Dont leave him just like that. he needs u.
2006-06-16 03:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by vince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were things like before the financial trouble? Look back and see how you felt about him then. There is soooo much stress in a relationship when there are money problems, it's probably not the best time to guage how you are feeling about him. In the end, if you decide you want to be on your own you need to talk to him and move towards that. You can give him time to find another situation and at the same time start making plans for yourself.
2006-06-16 02:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by trishnmaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult one to answer without knowing all the fine details, however sometimes just doing something different for a change helps to lift a depressive mood (even if it's only for a short time out to have a nice evening meal together and to switch off from all the problems you may have going on). Money worries sounds like the main issue here however - this can cause a lot of problems that normally wouldn't appear otherwise. Is your partner actively trying to get another job to help out or has he switched off after losing his job? You seem to be trying your hardest to sort things out which sounds very admirable to me - hope everyhting works out for you because eveyone deserves happiness in their life.
2006-06-16 02:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by bigscary_monster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not always feel IN love. TRUE LOVE IS AN ACTION NOT AN EMOTION! If you are longing for that old piazzas that was probably the infatuation stage of your relationship and will only peak it's head in on rear occasions.
True love STANDS THE TEST OF TIME. You will discover that NOTHING beats the calm, peaceful, companionship of a love that has stood against time. Don't give up the best is yet to come dear.
Love is ALWAYS the answer, Pandora
2006-06-17 02:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation.
You have to do what your heart feels. To be with him and unhappy is not going to do wither of you any good.
I do speak from experience. 4 years ago I got sick and had job problems. My relationship fell apart.
I did lose my job, am on depressants, and still have no idea what to do.
You need to take care of yourself first. A breakup might help him too. He could get better, get a good job, and then you can get back together.
Good Luck!
2006-06-16 02:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never stay with someone out of feelings of obligation, even if you feel like you love them. You may just care about him and his welfare but this wont be enough. He is responsible for himself and his own happiness and you-yours. This is probably why you are feeling depressed, the responsibility of him is weighing you down and draining all the fun out of your life.
2006-06-16 06:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and find someone who will erase your depression.. go to dating sites like webdatedotcom.. this is not a bullshit scam.. i just recommend it highly since i had the same kind of depression before and i feel much better now.. SPREAD THE FUN!!!!
2006-06-16 02:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by steller23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm love
2006-06-16 02:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE OF LIFE
2006-06-16 02:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by addicted to this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋