if your husband/wife...?

Question

If your husband/ wife treated you like dirt in front of your friends. If he/she always wants everything their way, and no question of compromise. What would you do about it?

Answer 1

a lot of that happens and times are changing..... unfortunately most guys are slagging behind.... so they will bully the wife and all..... however the guy will only bully as much as he is allowed....... so ifyou love the guy there is obviosly stuff you like about them so just stop letting them bully you. just remember boys are dogs and a little training is all you nee......notice that i am not saying anything about the bully wife bcoz am not a woman

Answer 2

First of all I would tell my spouse , in private, how they were treating me in front of people, and how a compromise would would be better in some cases.If that doesn't work I would then suggest going to a marriage counselor or a clergy. If your spouse isn't willing to go with you I would suggest you tell them that you love them very much, and that you are willing to do anything to keep the marriage alive, but not the way it is going now with the way they are treating you. Tell them that it took two people to get married and that it will take two to repair it. If they still refuse to get help with you go by yourself. If you can't find any other way to resolve the problem then and only as a last resort I would suggest divorce.

Answer 3

It doesn’t sound good to me. If a husband/wife disrespect the spouse and it’s in front of people, there must be something wrong with their relationship. It’s time to sit and talk about the problem and ‘God damn it’ must be a way for a compromise or else, there'll be lot more problems and that marriage is moving toward the end.

Answer 4

Talk about it....counselling and if all else fails then it was not meant to be. Compromise is essential in a relationship unless you like to be treated like that, and it sounds like you dont or you would not have asked the question. My partner is very selfish and we debate all the time about it. Unless you put your foot down things will not change....As for treating you like dirt in front of other people, dont retaliate, its pointless, your partner is already making an *** of themselves on their own. Just talk about it, calmly, or in case you cannot (I cant, I get too worked up) Write a letter, then they can read it alone, and you can possibly say things you couldnt to their face. Its a wonderful form of personal therapy as well.
Good luck to you

Answer 5

Is this a change in his behavior or was he like this while you were dating? If this is the way he acted before you married him then shame on you for selecting him to be your mate. If it is a new behavior I would confront him with it "Why are you acting this way? Are you doing steroids? Is something the matter at work? I didn't marry an AH." Then see what the problem is, he will probably be glad you brought it up. The work on whatever changed his behavior.

Answer 6

I would get a divorce. I have too much respect for myself to be put down when we're alone nevermind in front of my good friends. This person sounds very self-absorbed and selfish. You could confront the person but chances are the person really doesn't care since he/she does in front of your friends. Every deserves respect. If you can't get it, make it.

Answer 7

It is not his /her fault that he/she treats that way it is your fault for being a doormat (that wasnt meant to be mean) but if you leave youll just find someone else who sees you are weak and they'll do you the same way ,point fingers at someone leaves 4more pointed right back at you ,you are your own problem you want to get real and you are not afraid of the truth ask your friends and family if they see you as weak !

Answer 8

Normally, two-way communication will help solve the problem. But if your guy wants to play his dominant role in front of his friends, you might have to let him with some conditions. For example, in front of your friends, it will be your turn. Or even better to say that, in bed you have to let me control the game.

Answer 9

long time ago i was in a relationship like that with the father of my first son....... well actually was worst because in fact he would hit me in front of anybody friends of his and family...he was worthless we had to live with his mom well i was seventeen he was my first love.....when i got pregnant i didnt tell him i got in a plane one day and i had lived in florida for 19 years he saw the baby once,when the baby was two months old and another time when he was three years old and he tried to get me to go with him,i said hellls no people like that never change things only can get worst the more you tell them how much you are in pain the more they do it.... dont waste your time value your self. My son is seventeen years old now getting ready to graduate high school and going to the marines if i had stayed my son would problably not make it,he would be angry and full of resent for having a sorry childhood,he growed up to be ten times the man his daddy never was.so if you are in relationship like that get out.now.good luck.

Answer 10

First of all, I wouldn't let him treat me like dirt in front of my friends, I'd stand up for myself. Second of all, I wouldn't let it be his way if that's not what I wanted. I would tell him to comprimise or get the fu*k out!