is it wrong getting to know a married woman?

Question

there was a woman i came across online i talk to her at frist she didn't tell me she was married she told me in her own secret way to make it short she told me she is not happy with her man because he cheats on her and she looking for someone that have the same belief in love and so far she has gotten interested in me and we made an agreement to get to know each other first and then see what happens do you think it's wrong i continue to talk to her and get to know her i like what i know about her and she said if she see that i am the right man for her she going to leave him for me do you think it's right for me or should i keep her as a friend

i forget to mention that no i haven't meet her this might seem stupid but she has to youngern kids iam 21 and she is 30 years please tell me if i am making a big mistake

Answer 1

if she is going to get to know you to sleep with you RUN!! if she will cheat on her husband with you.....as fun as it may be....whats to say she will not do the same to you.....as we all know she will...once she leaaves him for you? good luck

Answer 2

People who have had trouble with their spouse or friends in a relationship, have this element of trying to "escape" the realities of their relationship falling apart and not wanting to face the challenge of solving it.They always feel that if they connect with another one, all will be well. Unfortunately, it doesn't end well, Since they will also find a reason for running away from you again and again..its kind of re-carrying state of affairs which if not properly diagonised and solutions got, can land many parties into real trouble;leaving a trail of broken hearts,unfulfilled promises,etc
She is looking for a crying shoulder, finding it from you isn't good at all!!!She is married and marriage is an institution governed by regulations of its own. This will boil up into an affair thus deepening the already volatile situation at her house!!
Postponing a disaster doesn't make it any less a disaster. Keeping her as a friend is like an accident waiting to happen. Note that also that though you have not met, matters involving the heart/emotions move from one level to another. Familiarity breeds liking but not love! You will get used to her and it may be interpreted to mean love but it'll be something else altogether.
You are already vulnerable so I wouldn't advise that you try to help her sort out the fix. Put yourself in her husbands situation, how would you love some man doing what you are doing? Please stay away..!!!!She may create a story to justify her straying tendency and you don't have the information to know if her allegations are true.

Answer 3

First of all, I would think, that if a woman is unhappy in her marriage, she should try to sort it out to the best of her ability. Lets say, it has not worked and so she is thinking of leaving her husband. In such a case, it is not in good taste on her part to start looking for someone whilst she is still married to her man.

Secondly, she wants to hang on to this man she is married to, until such time that she finds another man who wuold be right for her? Does this not mean that she is using him? If her husband is cheating on her, and she is unhappy about that, she should leave him first. The way you explain your problem it appears that she is like the monkey on the tree that jumps from one branch to another, letting go of the first one only when it finds the other. Not so good.

You have not written whether you have already met her. That part is very important. Online, anyone can take anyone else for a BIG ride. Be careful. After you satisfy yourself in all aspects, over a period of time you can take your decision. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Yes, it's wrong. How can she tell you that her husband is cheating on her and that she's looking for someone that has the same beliefs in love as she does and then turn around and pretty much contemplate cheating on her husband? That's the pot calling the kettle black. If she would look for another man while being married, then she would sure do it to you if y'all got serious. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

Answer 5

if she is going to be with you she is going to be with you regardless of if she is with her husband or not. she wants to have a safety net in you and in him so that if it doesn't work out with you she can fall back on him. there is nothing wrong with getting to know someone who is married but be sure that what they tell you is true. if her husband is such a horrible guy she should have no problem leaving him for herself not just for you. not saying to cut her off cold turkey but let her put out one fire before she ignites another. don't sell yourself short. if you really like her tell her you will remain friends but you will not wait for her to make her decision and if your around and available when she does then so be it. also what if you meet her and she's not what you want and she leaves him???? these are some questions to ask yourself. hope this helps take care.

Answer 6

I don't like that phrasing "if she see that i am the right man for her she going to leave him for me". That implies that she's this unbelievably unattainably perfect beauty, inside and out. She's just some unsatisfied housewife who wants to cheat on her husband, who's probably lying just a little bit about the details of her life.
To answer your question, yes it is wrong.

Answer 7

Well she is married and she says that her husband cheats on her and stuff...how do you know that she isn't just saying that he does her wrong just so you would turn her down cause of the fact that she is married....well I think that you should keep talking only being the fact that you think that her husband cheats on her but really i wouldn't do it....but it is your life....stick with your gut feeling and your instinks .

Answer 8

i think she should leave her husband before you and her get closer. the story she is telling you may be fake, she may just be wanting someone to have an affair with. you're worth more than that.

Answer 9

Yes it is wrong.She is married.If she is truly unhappy with her husband she should have already left him regardless if she has someone new or not.It just shows how needy and insecure she is.

Answer 10

please don't "add insult to injury" meaning just be a friend... why??? first and foremost... she is married!!!! second reason... she is married!!! third reason... she is married!!! whether she is happy or not with her marriage, whether his husband cheats... it doesn't change the fact that she is married... be a friend... stay away from her... let her resolve her battles. help her solve her problem and don't add to it. k?