Should I stop helping people? It is unfair that I can help people but no one helps me... the only person who has ever helped me in life is my sister... I have helped my friends and when I needed help they don't come for me... what should I do ?
2006-06-16 01:23:56 · 36 answers · asked by silvs 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ahh I see thx XD
btw, Dz Nutz you go jump off a cliff and tell me how it is and i'll consider :) have a nice day
2006-06-16 01:29:43 · update #1
I know it's unfair! You are absolutely right! I have this problem too! I helped in past some friends and in the end they turned their back on me! I could tell you many stories about these ''betrayals'' but just hear this. I had a friend in university who has broke up the period we were having exams. I supported her with all my heart. I helped her to study and not to think this her ex-boyfriend, I LEFT MY HOUSE AND I MOVED IN TO HER HOUSE BECAUSE SHE COULDN'T BE ALONE FOR MORE THAN AN HOUR WITHOUT CRYING! When she had good grades to all the test, SHE STARTED AVOIDING ME!
So, you are not the only one who has this problem. But you know something? I NEVER STOPPED HELPING PEOPLE! That's me! Although some of my friends or ex-friends treated me bad, I NEVER GAVE UP BELIEVING THAT SOME DAY THERE WILL BE SOMEONE WHO WILL APPRECIATE MY BEHAVIOR!
So, give all people the chance to appreciate your behavior and your excellent character: help them in every way you can. Life isn't so unfair! You will be proved right some day, TRUST ME!
2006-06-16 01:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im EXACTLY like you. One word for you, Benevolent. Like you, I know Ive given more than recieved. You may not get the same appreciation back, but you will be remembered for it. It is unlikely you will get the favours back, and i guess thats just life being unfair to the both of us. But i also believe i help people because i like to do it. To see people smile and appreciate what you've done helps you to continue through life and gives you an incentive to live on with some kind of meaning.
2006-06-16 01:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Louis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People should never stop helping others. If everyone that has helped someone and never recieved help in return quits then no one would ever help each other again. Some people take advantage of others you just have to know when to say enough is enough. True freinds can always count on each other and you can only give so much.
2006-06-16 01:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Izabella Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling. Seem as if the more giving you are, the more people take. Then your time of need comes around and no one can help you. Don't stop helping people, just be more subjective. Stick close with sis. maybe your friends are not all that great of friens after all and you should find some better ones.
i wish i could help you out, but i don't know what you need or WHO YOU ARE lol
2006-06-16 01:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there
people told me to stay that good person you are and better you can help others than you have to need help
fill good with yourself and what goes around comes around,next time you will not help those who refused you
but a good person is always shining like a piece of gold between a lot of stones
stay good just may be trust lees the people around you
i stooped helping all those jerks only who really deserves that and i have some less disillusion on man kind
stay nice ,humanity need people like you
2006-06-16 01:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by qwq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more important that you do what you know is right, regardless to what others do. People don't help others because they expect to be helped back in return (most of the time anyway). I'm not saying that's what you're doing; I know how unfair it feels to be put in that situation, but you've got to keep doing what you've been doing.
2006-06-16 01:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always help without expactations
what u offer someone will be repaid someday somehow but its not u that decides how tat would be done
there's a lot of times in my life where i help my friends and lost a lot in between...at the time i need them the most, even emotionally, no one is there
but this only proofs how much stronger u are
and how much independant u are in helping urself
stay strong
2006-06-16 01:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. But my friend .... What or who is a Friend? Kindly go on helping but from now on using your brains. MY rule of living is - I always stand by people - whoever he / she is - when they need someone, by helping them by moral boost or physical help or helping them get out of problem. Once they are out of problem they never see me ie I never go and meet anybody or you can say I DONT LIKE WASTING TIME. They have lot of friends to enjoy, so help people when nobody is by thier side. Try to help Elderly people - Ladies and Gents - small small help, getting them something from market etc. AND Know for yourself WHAT A LOVE AND BLESSINGS ARE.
2006-06-16 01:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Raj S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate completely!! Sometimes you end up spreading yourself so thin you end up having little time for yourself.Then you need alittle help yourself and all of a sudden friends and sometimes family are sooo "busy".I wouldn't stop helping people,it's what decent people can't help but do,but try not to inconvenience yourself for people you know wouldn't lift a finger for you and go out of your way for the one's you know would.:-)
2006-06-16 01:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by heatherfarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because alot of people are takers. Obviously you are trying to be a good and generous person, and there are people who have now targeted you as someone they can use. Try to focus on taking good care of yourself first and foremost, and that may force the users in your life to grow up and stop taking advantage of you.
2006-06-16 01:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by expertloghomegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋