...and what are the womens reasons for doing it herself? When would she get her engagement ring?
The reason I ask is because my boyfriend either needs to do this himself, or move on w/his life and find someone else. I'm 21, he's 23 and we've been dating for 2 years which one of that we've lived together.
Is it wrong for me to want to move on w/my life if he isn't going to pop the question? Last resort-- me popping the question?
2006-06-16 01:03:25 · 14 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask him to marry you. Explain that you don't wish to invest any more time in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. If he loves you, he will say yes. If he says no, you've saved yourself some wasted time. Good luck either way.
2006-06-16 01:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe shivery is not dead, and some would beg to differ, so i say no it's not uncommon but it is a mans job. Mainly because men take longer to make up there minds. They also tend to freak out easier under pressure. However if you want to move on GO FOR IT! Just make sure you ask your self if you can leave and not think of him and what you might have had. That's when you know you need to be with him.
2006-06-16 01:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least if you ask and he declines, then you've made the attempt. If you never ask and split up, you'll always ask yourself "what if?" Maybe at 23 he is still a bit young to get married. Are you his first serious girlfirend?
What is the reason for such a strong desire to be married? Is it because you actually want the guy or do you want to be married for the sake of being married?
2006-06-16 01:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him, wait and It will happen. Giving him an ultimatum will only hurt the relationship. Why are you in such a hurry to get married...? It's not all that. Your very young,
Plus, why would you want to pressure him into such a huge commitment? This is something that you both need to be in agreement to and pressured into..
Do it for the right reasons!!
Good luck.
2006-06-16 01:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rattlehead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u talked w/ him about getting married? If not, he may not realize that u want to get married. Dont be in such a rush either to get married! Its a lifetime commitment and if u rush into it and realize that it was the wrong decision, ur stuck! But if u are truly in love w/ him, then ask him. The worse he could say is no. If he says no, then say see ya! Best of luck
2006-06-16 01:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by billysgirls3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not terribly... usually the female backs the reluctant male into a corner.
Most consider 23 to be a bit early. If you're after SUCCESS not INSTANT GRATIFICATION... consider waiting a couple of years.
good luck
2006-06-16 01:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and ask. It is the 21st century. This way, you'll know if he really wants to get married to you. And be prepared for an answer you may not like.
2006-06-16 01:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by rsr4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not common. The woman is usually the more emotionally unsecure of the relationship. And the male usually is the one with the committment issues. Thus if the man can utter those words of 'will you marry me', it shows that he is willing to committ and if the woman says 'i do' it shows she is secure with her man. There is nothing wrong with this if you trust him completely.
2006-06-16 01:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all right to ask him. He might be nervous to do so . My Aunt did this 10 years ago to my Uncle and they are still together and they still act like young lovers. I ask him this same question and he said he was scared to tie the knot. But he is glad she asked him.
2006-06-16 01:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by zwhrjr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you go right ahead and pop the question. why not.
it is a different world today good luck.
2006-06-16 16:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋