how common is it, and how do you deal with it when it's your 14year old daughter?
2006-06-16 00:38:06 · 6 answers · asked by rami #1 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she's been cutting her upper arm, not too deeply. She has a friend at school who has been doing it for a while. I thought it was just copy cat behaviour, but didn't want to just dismiss it as such in case it wasn't.
I'm worried about comming down too heavily on her in case it makes it worse.
2006-06-16 03:26:24 · update #1
well i used to hurt myself when i was 12....but now that i'm 14 i wonder what made me do such silly things......
but i remember that i stopped hurting myself only coz my parents kept telling me how disgusted they were with me for the way in which i was behaving.....
i was initially very hurt that my parents wud be so mean to me....but well i understood with time......
as my best freind once put it......we hurt ourselves on the outside coz it helps us to take our mind of the pain on the inside....
so maybe ur daughter is just facing teenage problems....find out what they are and try to help her out and do make her reaslise that hurting herself is not gonna help...
i shud know!i still have the ugly marks from 2 yrs ago......
don go for professional help too soon.....that might just make her feel all the more hurt and misunderstood...
give her time, give her advice, give her warnings.......if it dosent work....then get her to a doctor
2006-06-16 01:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jean 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My recommendation is that you research your area for an excellent counselor. Your daughter is very distraught and needs help asap. I would especially recommend that you seek a christian counselor because with Jesus even the most hopeless situation for your daughter or anyone else becomes hopeful. Most of all, love her. Fourteen is a hard age these days. She needs your love, patience and acceptance. Teens have a tendency to push adults away. Don't fall for that. Be a friend as well as a parent.
2006-06-16 07:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl6000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOM, this isnt like a teen experimenting with smoking or something like that. This is a manifestation of another serious underlying problem. Dont be afraid to deal with the real issues, open the communication lines. You know it's not going to be easy, but youve all got to get real here. Professional help is critical.
2006-06-16 09:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to therapy. It is a dangerous habit and can lead to suiciade. She apparently needs help even if it is copy cat behavior. Don't go down on her case too hard. And don't ask her why she's doing it that might make it worse. Just get her to a therapist soon.
2006-06-16 14:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she a cutter? You need to bring her to the doctor. She needs some psychological help because that is addictive behavior. You will also need to get to the root of what is causing this behavior (pressures at school, family problems) and help her deal with it. It'll be a long road - very much like treating a drug problem or eating disorder. Good luck.
2006-06-16 07:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she doing to harm her self? Get in to family closing now. Be fore you loses her FOR EVER.
2006-06-16 08:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋