3 miscarriages now pregnant again - how can i prevent it happening again?

Question

hi, i have had two children - now 5 1/2 and 4. No problems before of during the 1st two babies. Since then i have had 3 miscarriages - 2 in 2004 (6 weeks 5 weeks) and 1 in feb (8 weeks) this year - 2 of which have only been detected when i have gone for a scan.

I found out today that i'm pregnant again and am really worried i will lose the baby. I know i'm lucky that i have two children already but i'm with a new partner now and we really want a baby together (i have already had one loss with him).

i also have a chromosomal disorder which doesn't affect me in any way other than it may cause a miscarriage. It was only discovered when my daughter - who has learning delay was tested. Although they dont think the chromosome is the cause of this as i have no problems.

i am currently awaiting the results of test to see if there are any other problems as i have had 3 losses. but they dont think anything of any signifcance will come back

is there anyone out there who has had the same problems and come through okay - i've also been told to take asprin each day just in case - has this worked for anyone else and what are the chances of it working for me? I alos get quite stressed with my daughter - her problems make her quite a handful - does anyone have any suggestions on how to stay chilled or generally how to stay pregnant - i'm desperate here!!

I'm also 24 years old if this helps!

thanks becky

by the way - i DO love and care for my children so dont bother telling me to.
also i am already seeing a consultant, midwife, doctor etc etc etc and following all their advice and recommendations - but sometimes other peoples personal experiences might help physically or even emotionally. Please only reply if you can really help - not just to up your points. Thanks to you all

thanks for all your suggestions - unfortuantely i cant get a babysitter as my daughter is such hard work - the most anyone will do is when my mum has them for a couple of hours (last night for example so i could watch the football in peace - not good for stress levels!!) She had her overnight a few weeks ago and she said never again!

I also dont and never have smoked or taken drugs - i dont work - my partner does - so i look after the kids. and he is really helpful - i haven't cooked for at least 2 weeks as he enjoys it so much - I know - i'm very lucky!

Answer 1

I can't help you prevent another miscarriage. Is the chromosome disorder causing it? Could it be a defect in the embroyo and nature is just doing its job? If that is the case then (if you lose this one) you might want to try IVF next time and they can test the embroyos before implanting them. I know this is controversial but I really do think that this tecnique can be very beneficial.
I'll pray for you and hope that you do not need my bit of advice.

Answer 2

You really need to see a doctor, after 3 mc's. It probably has some underlying facter such as hormone problems. I think it's not enough progesterone that can be a problem. My doc also told me just last week, to take one baby aspirin a day and also folic acid. The baby aspirin is supposed to help prevent mc's. Good luck and I'm sorry for all your losses. We've had 2 and I know how hard it is, especially when you don't have any with your husband. This is my situation exactly also, except I've only lost 2. But please look up a doctor and call them today and tell them your situation. Ask them if you need your hormones tested. The sooner you get it checked out, the better chances for your baby.

Answer 3

I pray for the best with your pregnancy. I have never had a miscarriage and, so, can't even imagine the fear that you are going through. What I can tell you is that one of my good friends had two miscarrriages within a 12 month period and is now holding her beautiful baby. She became pregnant with all three within a 12 month period, so it does happen. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

Becky my dear I am sorry to hear about your losses sweety.
I am a mom of 2 children..my son is 14 years old and my daughter is 3 years old.You need to have some time ALONE.get someone to babysit for a weekend so you can relax and destress.I know its hard but try and not think of the negative and what COULD happen just think postive and let nature take its course on your baby growing inside you.Stress is a big factor of alot of problems.Time to yourself is a must.Maybe try meditation?I wish you nothing but luck.

Answer 5

Ask your doctor for any sugestions to help. If you work cut your hours on the job, and Temporarily get help with your other two kids. Take a little time every day to just relax and breath. Drink some soothing herbal tea. Light some candles during your "quiet" time. Don't let things make you mad. Count to ten or 50 if it will help you to chill out when the kids get the best of you. Ask your man to help shoulder the load. If you believe, PRAY. God is out there, and he will help, if it is his will. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

3 miscarriages?? if u are sure you not indulging in any act not goood for your system when u are pregnant, like taking drugs, large quantity of alcohol, caffein, exercise at the early stage, stress, unsettled mind, ensure that u see a doctor and examine your womb, to see if there's any tumor, fybriod. If u are free of all these, then pending on what u believe, go spiritual. Go on your knees and talk to God, Allah and which ever one u believe. Speak life to your womb, confess and believe that u'll NEVER have any miscarriages, and so shall it be.
There's so much power in our tongue and what you believe, they change situation. Proclaim that miscarriages in not your portion because your mother had u and u'll have your own children. Be strong and let your patrner help in all these. Goodluck

Answer 7

Whoa, aspirin, who told you that and why? I would think that would be bad for you. I have a site below I use for medicines and pregnancy and asprin is listed as a C and D, which is not good. It thins your blood, may increase the chance of miscarriage and affect fetal development.

As far as dealing with stress, many women have good results with decaf tea, baths, lemonade, or a good old fashioned body rub by your honey.

Good luck to you and I wish you the best.

Answer 8

Becky,

I am so sorry to hear of your losses.

We lost a child at 24 weeks, I know the pain it causes.

My wife was diagnosed with an incompetant cervix and had a stich inserted to keep the cervix shut.

Ask your doctor if this will help.

Also email on [e-mail] if you wish my wife and I to pray for you.

Peter
(from Australia)

Answer 9

Maybe you should concentrate on looking after the children you do have. Worrying about your miscarriages must take its toll, and the children you do have would be missing you very much.
Maybe its God's way of telling you you already have two children needing your love and care.
There are many people in the world who cannot have children. You have two...go and love them and look after them, and say Thank you for your blessings

Answer 10

go to an allergy specialist asap and have a check, maybe you became allergic to something in the meantime. My friend lost 4 babies and went to doctor to find out eventually she was allergic to bread (and she is a vegetarian).

And stop stressing, first 3 month are most NB so rest and rest!!!

Good luck