How many people here are secretly....?

Question

lesiban/gay/bi. What I mean is how many are hiding this from their families and friends??

Did I not phrase this question properly?There's only been one proper answer out of 5. Or are people just in this for the points?

Answer 1

hi sweety, well yes i believe many pple hide it for different reasons whether it be their jobs certain friends and family marital status etc etc. However i'm bi-sexual and married. My husband doesn't know but that's my choice in not sharing that part of my lifestyle with him. Not because i wouldn't want to but being such a macho guy as he is i would think that it would hurt his feelings or he would think that he doesn't have what it takes to satisfy me and would make him feel awkward and i don't want that i love him dearly it's just that being with someone my gender is a totally different feeling that you can't get with a man a women knows what another women wants regardless if it's just being with one another to talk about certain intimate things that only another women can understand the softness and sensuality it's just a totally different ball game that i don't care to share with my family not out of embarrassment but rather it's my little world that i can escape too whenever i want hey as long as your not hurting anyone live life as you feel fit whether your out there or not to each his own.

Answer 2

I am from the Phillipines, an country in Asia that is the most dominated by the Roman Catholic religion. Being gay or lesbian is not accepted but a lot of feminine men and masculine women are seen around. There are gay bars and everything.

I found myself being gay with my first male sexual intercourse at the age of 7. Gay people are highly discriminated against in that country. I could even hear my family sometimes talking about how crazy gay people are.

Now, I am 16 and just came here in the US a year ago. I have seen how people accept homo's but not my family. I have been hiding my sexual orientation until now. I am just waiting until I am old enough to support myself and then tell them. If they still wont accept me, then I would be willing enough to change my name and would not call myself their family so that they wont be ashamed of me and not to have contact with them in any way.

I know that at this moment they are questioning my sexual oreintation but I know if I told them right now that I am gay, they will not accept me. I know that they will know it later but I think I better tell them first when I am ready. So I'd rather hide my identity, not my sexuality.

It's hard to hide who you really are but you gotta choose something you and everyone around you would benefit.

Answer 3

Why are we so concerned about COMING OUT???

I was raised to believe that your private life is your private life.
Many straight people don't do the public display of affection. So, for them, who knows??? right?

I guess from the standpoint of showing up to family functions with your same sex partner all the time, may raise a few eyebrows but that can be avoided to.

Personally, my sex life is between me and the person I'm having sex with. I talk openly here, only because I can.
I'm not "OUT" so to speak, but not because I'm afraid or anything. For that matter, there are two things I'm good at, fighting and the other "F" word.

Then again, I'm not in a catagory that is real easily clocked. I like women, genetic or transgendered. So, when I'm with a lady, I'm with a lady. Maybe that has something to do with it.

Cheers and thanks for allowing me this opportunity to talk to myself. hehehehehehe

Answer 4

I think they are just looking for points as their answers are not relivant to your question. I'd say there are alot of people hiding there true sexaulity from there families and friends which is sad cause these are supposed to be the people that love you the most in the world.

Answer 5

I was secretly gay for a long time, I mean I even hid it from myself for the longest time. But a few years ago I admitted who i was to myself and came out to all my friends and fraternity brothers. I still haven't come out to my parents but the time will come. So to answer your question, I guess I still am although it's not as big a secret as what it used to be.

Answer 6

I am only out to my mom, my significant other, and a few of my theatre friends and professionals (I work at a GLBT theatre - so they are excited to hear when someone comes out). I wish I could tell the rest of my family, but I need to educated them on what it means to be bi in the process.

Answer 7

All my friends know I'm gay, my brother does too. The only person I haven't told yet is my mum....just can't quite deal with that one just yet. I don't know why as I think she will be fine about it.....there's just something holding me back for the time being.

Answer 8

i'm pretty much still in the closet with my bisexuality.

i have a group of friends who know and are very accepting of it, but some of my older friends, my coworkers and my family don't know.

i'm married, so it would take a lot of explaining if i were to tell most of them that i also "play" with women. my husband and i are swingers, and that's something that is sometimes difficult for ppl to accept, no matter their sexual orientation. most ppl don't understand it and just want to judge me or say that my marriage is going to fail because of it, so i just keep it to myself. i know how strong my marriage is and i don't really care what others think.

it's really just my business anyways, so i don't offer details. if someone were to ask me about my sexual orientation, i'd tell them the truth though, because apparently they are interested and they've pondered it enough to ask me about it.

Answer 9

I have only told my closest friend, because she is bi and she understands. I have a relative who has experimented with bisexuality and her and I have kind of talked about it. I can't tell any of my family because they are totally against it. Living in a semi - small town makes it kind of hard to explore. I concider myself to be bi-curious.

Answer 10

i'm only out as a bisexual to my sister and a very good gay guy friend. so, yes, i'm hiding it from almost everyone. i don't have the courage to change that fact until i'm in a steady relationship with a girl, though.