people who remarry with children?

Question

how do you tell your children about your new partner and how do you tell them you all will be living together now what exactly do you say

Answer 1

First you need to present your new partner as a friend and let them all get to know each other a little, and build up the time you spend together. Gradually build up the amount of affection you show each other in front of the children, and do this in a natural way. Then say that that person is coming to live with you for a while to see if you all get on under the same roof. Let your kids know that this person makes you happy, and show them that you are and all will be well. There are bound to be difficult moments, but as long as you keep communicating then that's all that is important. I met someone after losing my husband to cancer, and my kids were very welcoming. He has been living with us for 6 months and all is well. Don't get too stressed. Everyone else will be fine if YOU are, because you are now the centre of the family, and need to be there for your kids and your partner to help them all settle in together. Always remember at the end of the day, they all love YOU. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 2

After my late husbands' death, I met a wonderful man. We connected in so many ways from the get go. After I knew the relationship was going in a serious direction, I introduced my boyfriend to my 4 son's. I gave em all time to get to know each other & payed very close attention to the interaction between my man & my son's. All was going so well so my man & I deceided we would combine households. I told my son's about the plan & asked them for feedback. The boy's were okay with the plan and my 2 youngest boy's were even very geeked & wanted to move right then & there. We made the move gradually over a few weeks time, packing & moving a little at a time. I continued to pay attention to my boy's reaction, all was still great. Finally after we were done moving in, I thought we'd all have a major adjustment period but to my surprise, all continued to be just great. That was 4 month's ago. Now there are plans of marriage & a home purchase together. My man is the best thing that has ever happened to us. Good luck!!

Answer 3

this is a vague Q there are many circumtances there to consider how old are the kids?
I met a guy when i was separated and the kids didn't know about him till a year later and then we met at a them park for a meeting to see how they reacted.........It's going on 3 years now and the kids love him. We are recently engaged and all I can say is your children come first and it's their life too and their happiness as well as yours. Please take it slow why move in together so soon and please let the kids have a decision in it ask what they thing of it or just have him stay there a few nights a week for starters.

Answer 4

That seems kind of sudden.

I think it's really important to take the time necessary for your kids and your partner to get to know each other. The older the are, the more important it is.

You're setting a model for them to follow...doing something significant...major life change...and suprising you with the information before you have the chance to react.

As opposed to including them in the decision making process. Allowing them to feel valued and heard and a part of family decisions.

My children are a part of any portion of the first dates...
A woman has to know what she's getting involved with and my children have to know who I'm with when I'm not home.

I usually wait until my children invite the partner to stay the night...I at least then have the security of knowing they won't be upset when they find a strange woman at the table in the morning.

Answer 5

To start let them meet your partner if they get along this is a good sign if the children don't like who you are with your marriage will not last

Answer 6

I believe it depends on their age. If they are very young you may need to handle it a different way. Sit them down and tell them that you have a new partner and he is moving in permanently. It won't be easy because there are so many issues and so confusing for the kids.

good luck

Answer 7

I think first you need to get them together and see how they bond together. What if your partner is mean to the kids or something? You would want to know that before you all moved in together. My now husband and son spent alot of time together before we got married. We would go to movies and stuff to get them acquainted. It takes alot of time to do this but it will work out better if you ease into it.

Answer 8

I think that this is sudden... Your kids have to like this person also, or your going to have conflict in your home all the time... Because your children are part of this also, and you just can't put them in something there not comfortable with... Have you watched him around your children? Is he even good with children? I would wait and bring him in slowly and sit back and watch how he is with your children and how they are with him...... Best of luck

Answer 9

I told my children that their daddy left them and myself to be with the cleaning lady at work, and that mom has met a new fella who will be moving in shortly. That for the time being, I will still have the say over them (children), and that we (myself and boyfriend) do NOT want him to be called dad, or daddy. They know their dad, and the boyfriend became my husband, and my children love him dearly. That's how I handled it.

Answer 10

depends on the children's ages, if young they will adjust to everything but take it slow. the more time the "other person" spends with them the better. if older ask them what they think and let them know that this person makes you happy and wants to be part of their lives too and not a replacement of lost parent.