How do you react when you are disappointed in a friend?

Question

How should you react when although he/she apologized, you feel really pissed?

Psychology, I also trying to do so, but i donno.........confused

this person does mean a lot to me

Medol thanks

fever thanks, it is not her it is him

Answer 1

Good Morning Angel

There are a couple questions you need to ask yourself:
1. Was the thing they did (or didn't do) intentional or accidental?
2. Have they ever done it before?
3. Was the apology sincere (in other words, do you believe they are truly sorry)?
4. Do you believe they are capable of doing it again?
and, most importantly
5. Can you forgive them?

Now, for the interpretation of the answers:

1. If it was an accident, no matter how careless, you gotta forgive them...people make mistakes. If it was an intentional act performed to cause you pain...cut them loose, you don't need them in your life no matter how sincere they may appear to be.
2. If this is the second time, it's a pattern of conduct and they may be incapable of stopping it. Depending on the severity, either get them to seek help, or if it's something you can't live with, cut them loose.
3. If you believe them to be true to their word, and they've never given you reason to doubt it, then believe them now. If they are prone to false promises, and apologize for the same thing over and over, cut them loose.
4. If the way the carry themselves/live their life indicates this is something that they will do again and again, you really don't need that drama. A true friend won't continue to do something that they know causes you pain. But, if it was a one-off thing that they are truly sorry for, and you believe them, then forgive them.
5. Here's the kicker: If the pain of this action has made it impossible for you to honestly forgive and forget, then friendship with this individual is not possible...you can't trust them not to hurt you. But, if you can see in your heart that this was someone who truly cares for you but made a careless mistake that they are honestly sorry for, you need to forgive them and forget the incident. If it helps, put yourself in their shoes...what if you had accidental done to them what they did to you...would you want/deserve their forgiveness?

Good Luck Sweetheart...I am confident you will do what's best for you!

Answer 2

Well, you are a person, I'm a person, your friend is a person, and we all make mistakes. Your friend really went out on a limb by apologizing (hopefully it was a sincere apology).

I guess it depends on what they did to anger you. If it was stealing (either possessions, money, or boyfriend) or another major breach of trust, then I'm not sure you are obligated to maintain the friendship. But if you do want to maintain the friendship, and they already apologized, then you should reach out to them, maybe sooner than later. Someday maybe you will make a mistake, and want somebody to forgive you, and I am sure you would not want them to distance themselves from you.

At any rate, I wish you the best of luck. Just remember: truly good friendships are hard to come by.

Answer 3

I think the best thing to do is confront your Friend about how you feel and why you feel they hurt you. I would avoid ignoring the situation or just holding it in. This rarely works, the only thing that does is make things odd when your around or that uneasy small talk feeling. I actually had this happen to me recently. I basically said my to Friend.. like this.. no offense Bro.. but you say this but your doing this. Be honest with them. If he or she is really a friend they will value your thoughts and opinions. I know it might not be easy at first but in the end... you will see that relationship get stronger.. but remeber if they really a true friend they should understand what your telling them. Be positive at first and slowing let them know what is bothering you, be sure you just don't pour it on them like water on fire.. =)

Really Angel honesty and true feelings are in the end the best thing to do. Heck I would want my friend to be straight up with me.. I might not like it at first but if it is true.. then I need someone to tell.

Here look at this way.. if your friend had booger showing on his or her face would you tell him.. ? well there you,..go lol..

I hope this helps.. =)

Answer 4

I would want them to know that I am pissed even though they apologized, because if you don't do that they might think that it's okay to do what they did. They might do it again thinking that "we'll say sorry and everything will go back to normal", will they should know that it's "not okay" and because you forgave this time that does not mean that you're a push over.

Answer 5

I bet your feeling a bit angry at her right now and that’s just normal…but in a while you’ll start forgiving her yourself maybe without even knowing it…and all this anger about whatever she might have done or said will go away….just give it time…if you cant forgive her right now don’t and if she’s a good friend and more important to you then the problem at hand then in time you’ll forgive her yourself :)..i hope it all works out

Answer 6

sad we have this guy at work who loves anime but is poor he always says he has no money so i was sorry for him yesterday and took him out to the england football game i bought drinks for him all night then today i find out he has spent 500 pounds on anime figures that he has bought from japan. i am so sad not i feel i am a mug i wanted to hit him today but insted i blocked the japanese site where he buys anime. hehe good ted. but i still feel betraid.
terry

Answer 7

I feel very sad to miss a friend, I respect his views and ideas if not matching mine. I strongly avoid such subjects first.

Answer 8

If they apologise and truly mean it, then I can forgive quite easily. But I do find it hard to forget sometimes

Answer 9

I'd say if they really apologized it is better to forgive them and move on.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Maybe you're still "pissed', cuz they did something that proves they are not really a friend..."sorry" doesn't always cut it.