I was with a girl once for him b4 we had or daughter but now i regret it he wont stop asking me I love him but im really getting tired of this he wont stop we have a child together any advice .. He has cheated in the past 2x im afriad he will cheat again
2006-06-15 20:42:14 · 8 answers · asked by tainted.luv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if he's wanting to be with another girl, he's basically telling you he wants to cheat on you right under your nose! He's wanting to see you with another girl.... for what reason? He is your husband, for Heaven's sake!!! He took a vow to forsake ALL OTHERS... and that meant to be with nobody else but YOU!
If you are considering doing it because you don't want him to cheat on you, you are only fooling yourself. By allowing it to happen, you are technically giving him the "okay" to do it, whether you are there or not. Therefore, he will cheat.
Take your daughter and get out! Go to a friend's, relative's, or a motel, if you have to!
File for divorce! Won't the judge have a field day when the reason for the divorce comes out! He should be ashamed of himself! He is wanting his cake and be able to eat it too! He is a cheater and you cannot trust him! Just imagine what's gonna happen when your daughter gets a little older and finds out that her mommy (and daddy) slept with other women together! And it WILL get out if you allow it to happen!
He has pretty much told you that he isn't satisfied with being with just YOU. Now you have to find the strength to stop his stupidity. Your trust in this marriage has already been damaged and I don't see it coming back any time soon. By his request, what makes you think that he hasn't already had an orgy without you?? He is a real jerk! He should be thinking about the welfare of his wife and child... not out trying to get a bunch of girls into bed!
You have to get away from him and file for divorce!!! Make sure you tell an attorney EXACTLY why you are filing!!! Don't be afraid!
If you can't afford an attorney, you can get one that works based on your income.... just check the yellow pages and call around to several divorce attorneys. The first consultation is usually free anyway and they can tell you what to expect.
Just don't give in and do what your husband is wanting. You are a mother and you might even get turned in for some kind of neglect or something for doing this sort of thing... Think about your daughter. Where would she be without her mother? Do the right thing for your daughter and make her proud of you!
God Bless you, dear, and Good luck!!!
2006-06-15 21:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself some tough questions first. Do you really want to stay married? Do you feel safe? Have you properly resolved the cheating issue between the both of you? Are you willing to find out that he cheated again and what are the possibilities of that happening?
After you've answered these questions and feel comfortable with the relationship you have with your husband, then here is one suggestion that works: Tell him that you are not interested in being with anyone else but him.
Many men are aroused by just the THOUGHT of two women together so you might want to try a little storytime while you are being intimate. TALK about yourself and another woman together in detailed graphic terms. You don't actually have to want to perform an act of intimacy with another woman to be able to do this, you just have to have a sincere desire to entertain your husbands fantasy.
But most of all, TELL him that you are not going to be with anyone else but him and if there's a problem with that then there is a problem with the Marriage that calls for counseling and guidance.
2006-06-15 22:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by cc smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that she 'disrespected' herself? Because you don't believe in something she did?
If he's pushing for something and you're refusing to do it it's going to cause problems.. whether you want to believe that you have a right to refuse him or not.
Perhaps you can find common ground on this and have some give and take. If you're truly uncomfortable with it then explain that.. but try to find an alternative that he'd be comfortable with.
I think that's part of being married.
2006-06-15 21:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by theroyalone69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your right he will cheat again, theres no doubt about that. You may love him, but obviously he dosent love you or he want another woman. You need to tell him that you made a mistake once, but have no intentions of doing it again. If my man wasnt happy with just me I would tell him to hit the road.
2006-06-16 01:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him you do not want this, he needs to respect that. It sounds like he has some issues, and if he isn't willing to seek some counseling, and go to counseling with you, then I would say stick to your guns and leave him. He sounds like a jerk.
2006-06-15 20:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the third wheel. start making plans to exit with your daughter.
2006-06-15 20:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT. YOU DISRESPECTED YOURSELF ONCE FOR HIM. HE JUST WANTS TO PLAY AT YOUR EXPENSE.
2006-06-15 20:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by romadgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-15 20:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋