We have been dating for about 4 months, it got serious fast. I started taking a few extra things for the gym and drinking along with them. I slowly started to become a very aggravated person until one day I snapped and broke down and really scared her away. I got rid of that crap from the gym and have stopped drinking for her. But she says it's for the bennfit of her son, that I not come around or call her anymore. But she tells me when I ask that she still loves me. But won't answere my phone calls only calls when she wants me to get the rest of my stuff when ever she finds more. She kept asking me to stop taking the stuff for the gym and that maybe I should cut back on my drinking. I swore to her that if I ever couldn't handle what I was taking I would quit in a heart beat for her and her son. As soon as I had an outbreak I stopped everything...now she says it's probably to late. Someone Please help me!!!
2006-06-15 20:38:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave her alone, I wouldn't want you around either after your outbreak, she doesn't want her son acting like that. What are you thinking anyway, leave that crap alone, apoligize and leave her alone. If you really care let her find someone who doesn't have outbreaks and then kick yourself in the a double s.
2006-06-15 20:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by zorahudson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... you must've really scared her! The important thing is you know what scared her and you have changed that behavior. Now you're gonna have to start building from scratch.
Stop in one day (or night), knock on her door, and when she answers, introduce yourself, as if you're meeting her for the first time. Start by being just friends... with her AND with her son. Take it slow this time. Don't try to push her into a relationship. The more you push, the more she will withdraw.
She sounds like a very caring person and mother and you sound very sincere in how you feel about her and her son. Just keep in mind, she loved you in the beginning for YOU... not for the way your body looked. There should be no reason why you'd feel you have to "take anything" to make you into someone you aren't.
Talk to her... romance her... listen to her... be there for her and her son. Get her small gifts now and then, and don't forget to include her son!
My boyfriend can do all the nice things in the world for me and it's very sweet... but when he does something special, just for my kids... that means so much to me, as a mother!
Take it slow and in time, she will see what a caring man you are and that you are sincere. Keep your anger in check from now on. If you are able to win her back and blow it by blowing up again, she probably won't ever give you another chance.
Good luck to you! I hope everything works out the way all three of you want it!
2006-06-15 20:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't know what has happened in her past relationships, and she is doing the right thing by protecting her son, and herself. You behavior scared her, b/c who knows what you could have done! Give her some time to come to terms with what has happened, if she truly loves you she'll soften up eventually...try flowers or a letter explaining yourself....take it slow...sorry to say you might have to start over to prove to her you have changed....drugs and alcohol addiction is scary and even if you may believe you are through with it..at any time you may relapse, and i think that is what she is scared about. One day at a time, prove to her and yourself that you are capable of being a decent husband and father to her son..cuz truth be told..that is exactly wat she is looking for.....
2006-06-15 20:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. She might not understand at this time, but hopefully she will see that you have corrected the problem. I truly hope she will. But don't punish yourself. If she keeps it up and strongly is not going to resume a relationship with you,then move on. At least you would have a learned a very valuable lesson..remember,WE LEARN FROM OUR MISTAKES
2006-06-15 20:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by um_er_ra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. You need to win her trust back by staying clean and showing her you can go for the long haul.
2006-06-15 20:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kep on tryin
2006-06-15 20:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by munns_dandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋