I love a girl of different religion
My parents oppose our marriage due to
1.Fear of social boycott of our family (including my parents) by society & relatives.
2.Mental block ness about the other religion girl in the family
I tried to convince them a lot with by all means but failed.
Mental stress & fear about if I married that girl with out the consent of my parents took toll on my mom’s health.
Come to learn that together my G F & I do not have any future, as I can’t leave my parents because there is no one to look after them at this stage of life.
After considering the things we decided to discontinue our relationship.
However we are in very much love at this time also.
We are still going through the pain of parting….
Even now also she is very supporting & loving
However some times she feels that I have done injustice to her.
& She does not know whether she will end loving or hating me for rest of her life
Kindly Advice
2006-06-15 20:23:02 · 7 answers · asked by dhin_tak_dhin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks All for your answers.
You all considered only my GF's pain
most of you forgot to consider my parents pain..kindly consider that part also.
Looking for more answers from your side
2006-06-16 00:01:16 · update #1
It's really your decision, but consider the following:
1. Do not let your parents manipulate you by telling you that by being yourself and being happy, you are making them ill. Be considerate, of course, but they have to deal with their own feelings and mature in life still at their age.
2. Introspect, and make sure that you are not doing this just to be a little rebel. Perhaps your parents have such a tight leash on you that you feel that you have to do something drastic in order to assert your independence as an adult. If this is a large part of your case, you would marry for the wrong reason, and very well have problems down the road.
3. Are you sure that the fact that you are told not to marry her does not make you more interested in her than you would otherwise be? Introspect.
4. If you not marry her, how do you honestly think that you would feel about that decision many years from now? Do you think that you would deeply regret it, or do you think that you would have warm feelings for her but be nonetheless more or less happy with another sweet girl? Be honest with yourself; you are best able to make a good and honest decision.
2006-06-15 20:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by ilovela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18, I think you are entitled to live your own life and love/marry whomever you please regardless of what anyone (including your parents) says.
It's nice that you are concerned about your parents feelings, but they did their job of raising you, now they need to learn to let go. If you let them control the decisions of who you marry, they will always find something wrong with every girl.
One day, they are going to be old.... and so will you..... and you will still be a bachelor because you let them control you for too long.
One word of advice..... girls don't like "momma's boys"!! It's time to "cut the apron strings", so to speak. Grow up and make your OWN decisions. It's your life and you are entitled to have your happiness.
Your mother's health will always seem to "fail" if it gets her what she wants... Your mother needs some counseling to help her learn to accept that you are grown, and you need counseling as well. Shame on you for putting your girlfriend in this situation! You need your bottom spanked!
Your girlfriend is right to feel hurt at your decision. She needs you and loves you and you are letting her down, choosing your parents over her. She has invested her time in a relationship that you are questioning whether or not it will even work now.
Good luck!
2006-06-15 20:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man serously u need to get her back if u love her that much just cause shes a different religion dont mean u cant marry her and are u gonna let ur parents chosse things all ur life thats why they call it YOUR LIFE not thiers cheer up just either change ur religion or she chage hers u nor her need not worrying so much man live life ur way not ur parents!
2006-06-15 20:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** your parents and go with the girl you truly love...
or you'll lose her and regret it your entire life and
you'll only have yourself to blame for listening to your parents...i never listen to my parents and im very happy...
2006-06-15 20:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by freak_on_a_leash_666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u have alot of crap on your plate bud.sounds like you two need to just stay friend until you both figure out wat you want and need. the pain of a break-up will go away, its a very slow prosses but it goes away. be there for your folks, and be there for her if you want. you never know wat might happen. good luck sorry to hear about the health.
2006-06-15 20:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by kidmccloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey guy parents is a parents i did think so u feel parents feelings
2006-06-15 20:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better go get your girl, I'm telling you...........it won't kill your parents any faster than them being bull headed will. GO GET YOUR GIRL GO GO NOW
2006-06-15 20:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by zorahudson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋